Nushnushganay wrote: »
Another deep question that deserves careful consideration.
Honestly, I don't know. I've laughed off being called a name, not as an act of bravado, but because I genuinely thought it was funny af at the time, but I was able to feel that way, because it wasn't an actual threat, nor was it something that had become a nagging wound from repeated inflicting. It really matters what the context is, whether there is real malice behind it, and also whether the malice is personal, or offhand and casual, dismissive not from anything between the two people personally, but due to the dismissal of an entire group of people, by the one doing the name calling. Slurs, in other words.
I've never dealt with that in a chronic, systemic way, and I think that would affect things.
I did change schools frequently enough that I was always an outsider, and felt like one anyway even when I was in a school long enough to have friends. So the few times I got called something, I generally just bulled through with no reaction, and it would die down on its own a lot faster than if I had made a fuss. But I didn't feel threatened, and that also changes things. I was bigger, stronger, taller than most of them, and had been through things that gave me a perspective they couldn't have, on what is and isn't a real threat.
But if I had been told daily, by different people, always the same bad things about myself? You bet that would dig in and eat away at a person. Even though that person would then have to pretend indifference, I think that would make it even worse, to have to pretend to not react, when the injury was compounded daily. A slow drip of poison hits different.
And I realize that makes me unqualified to speak on it except to condemn it.
So I don't even know, between the two of us. Want to know what you think, though.
WMLT be seeing some leg atrophy from too much not getting out, due to quarantine and social distancing?
DeKay wrote: »
WMLT hate wearing masks?