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How do you like to do weddings in your game?
mia_noelle97
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Title says it all. How do you do your weddings? Do you host an actual event and invite a bunch of guests or do your sims just elope? Where do you like to have your sims get married? Do you give them wedding rings on all of their outfits after? Do any of your sims change their last names? I love weddings so I was curious how others like to play them.
For me, a lot it depends on the sim. A lot of the time I don't feel like hosting an actual event because those always go wrong so my sims end up eloping a lot. But, sometimes I will host an actual event, especially if they have a lot of family and friends to invite or I just feel like having a big wedding. As for location, it varies, but if the weather is nice I like to either go to Sulani or a park. I also have a courthouse wedding venue in my save that's great for my sims who don't want anything fancy. I also have sims get married at the Romance Festival a lot. After the wedding, I always give my sims wedding rings on all of their outfits except for sleep and athletic. And as for last names, I depends on the sim. I have some sims whose last names I want to keep, and others I don't mind changing. A lot of my sims do end up changing their names or hyphenating.
For me, a lot it depends on the sim. A lot of the time I don't feel like hosting an actual event because those always go wrong so my sims end up eloping a lot. But, sometimes I will host an actual event, especially if they have a lot of family and friends to invite or I just feel like having a big wedding. As for location, it varies, but if the weather is nice I like to either go to Sulani or a park. I also have a courthouse wedding venue in my save that's great for my sims who don't want anything fancy. I also have sims get married at the Romance Festival a lot. After the wedding, I always give my sims wedding rings on all of their outfits except for sleep and athletic. And as for last names, I depends on the sim. I have some sims whose last names I want to keep, and others I don't mind changing. A lot of my sims do end up changing their names or hyphenating.
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I don’t change their last names because I personally wouldn’t take someone elses last name if I ever got married in real life.
At the same time, though, some of my clans are downright medieval in "legitimizing" their children; the Markov clan, for example, has zero children out of wedlock. The same is true of the Lobos, the Lembecks, the Garamondes, and other characters with significant story arcs. They're kind of the nobility of my simworld.
As for women taking their husbands' names, it happens the majority of the time, but when I've got a woman who had a significant and highly notable life before she got married, she'll keep her own name, as when Jessie Charbonneau married Super Dave Lembeck and kept her own surname. Their kid, however, was Jonathan Lembeck. No hyphenation.
I don't throw wedding parties. "Elope immediately" makes everything "legal" and saves me the annoyance of dealing with NPCs running about.
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If a story demands that my sims get married I’d get them to elope right there on the spot and be done with it. 😅
Weddings are a piece of work but I do get why folks like them and why they would be popular in The Sims.
Attire has ranged from tuxes to nude (Brodie and Grant believed a colorful legend that this was an island custom of Sulani, but natives Eloy and Kai wore actual ceremonial dress).
Eligible venues are whichever I have that are vaguely religious, whether a restored Sulanese mara'e, a one-time Peteran abbey, or a Dai-Bendu kyber dojo in a Galaxy Far, Far Away.
Because I can't; I keep all sigs turned off.
I also have a slight bias in favor of the names of my sims and premades, and against randomly generated townie names. Randomly generated townies who marry into the family are a little less likely to keep their names or pass them on to their children. But some do, if it fits their story.
I'm not really big on hyphenation because what do you do for the next generation, hyphenate again and again forever?
When Salim Benali and Tanvi Savalani got married and had a daughter Laila in my game, I almost gave Laila the surname Benalani
I might have sims combine their surnames at some point in future, depending on the characters and the names.
I do like to make an occasion out of the weddings, even the simple ones; generally by the time two sims are getting married, they haven't seen as much of their family and friends lately, so the wedding is a chance for them to reconnect with those relationships, as well as introduce the new spouse to them.
I often don't bother with the goaled wedding event.
I don't usually bother/remember to add wedding rings in CAS, but it's a nice idea.
Some favorite wedding pictures in the spoiler
One of the hardest but most satisfying things about weddings has been getting everyone to eat the dinner at the same time. I consider it a win if they're at least eating at the same time even though they won't all be sitting down together. It is a big happy party anyway.
Penny & Bess getting married at the same place- hardly anyone ever sits down to watch weddings, thank you to that one kiddo for confirming that I didn't place the benches wrong somehow
Legacy founder Ragamuffin Jones marrying Cameron Fletcher in the only ceremony they could afford (she started with 0 simoleons and got married in the second week)
Ragamuffin's grandson Valentín marrying Wolfgang Munch at the Municipal Muses museum
Ragamuffin's great-grandson Tamir marrying Madeleine Posey on impulse after their soccer club meeting (at the original Myshuno Meadows)-- this was a doomed marriage, but the wedding was sweet, note the soccer stink on them
The wife takes the husband's name. I'm old-fashioned.
After the ceremony, they both wear wedding rings with every outfit except swim. No one wants to lose their precious wedding ring in the pool or ocean. I have about 5 different very lovely female CC wedding sets to choose from as well as 2 male bands.
You didn't ask LOL but if they can afford it, and most can, they have a honeymoon. Usually to Sulani but occasionally WIndenburg if they're a legacy descendant with oodles of family money.
and just have them elope take some pictures etc
recall having several gothic elopements in forgotten hollow near the big tree
one couple near the woohoo waterfall in Sulani
my legacy sims eloped in Selvadorada
there is lovely spots in the jungle too
and i did have some elopement during romance festival in san myshuno too which was lovely
as for actual weddings
san myshuno park I had lovely wedding for 2 guys long time ago... i would like to use it again
windenburg mansion
for bobs wedding
self built henford church is fun venue too...
oh dang i really better get to the actual story one day
but I do really want to add wishing well there too... once i get the pack
also they worship the mighty gnome instead of *add actual religion*)
and i did make beach venue too for sulani village once but it was cancelled due to bad weather
looks all nice in b/b tho
as for names I just let game do whatever it does
and rings... I tend to not add them unless sims have them on
cause I'm just lazy like that and also cause i don't really care for rings myself
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My sims, Johnny and Emiliano, getting married in Windenburg.
Cutting the cake and having the first slice is such a cute interaction.
Weddings are a bit chaotic, but most events are when you have a lot of sims gathering. Still, I find them really fun.
As far as names go, I'm a bit traditional so usually the wife will take the husband's last name, but it honestly just depends on the character. I don't bother with rings mainly because I use CC eyelashes and they often conflict with each other.
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Finally, and long in the coming, my Global Superstar marries his high school Sweetheart. They chose to do so at The Bluffs:
reception:
Unfortunately, it started to rain.
Kayleigh is near tears that it's raining on her wedding day, and her identical triplet sister plays Polly Anna, assuring her that at least the guests ate the cake before it got drenched.
To add insult to injury, one of Erik's Obsessed Fans, prone to removing his clothes, decides to take a shower in the rain — in front of everybody!
Yeah, I'm beginning to hate weddings. I have noticed, of late however, that my female Sims are wearing their engagement rings after the ceremony! Also, I used to place wedding bands on my Sims, but you can't do that with formal wear. Why is that?
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When it comes to events, I like to host them at venues... and usually mess up in one way or another. Like forgetting to bake that freaking cake and having to buy kitchen equipment in the middle of the party in order to make it. But I just like picking different venues relevant to their personality and inviting a bunch of family/friends. Especially with my mods (which affect autonomy) it's fun to watch whether any drama happens.
Names... if they do change their names I tend to just pick whichever sounds better or is more "relevant". E.g. if I started playing Cassandra Goth and she married some random townie she most certainly wouldn't pick the name of that townie. Instead I'd most likely make them both Goths. Same pretty much goes for any pre-mades who have distinctive surnames. Similarly I'm biased for my own sims.
Most of my Sims don't know many Sims by the time they are married, because some I have elope right away. Other times, even if they know others, I have them elope as soon as possible.
Two of my female Sims eloped at the Romance Festival.
One of my male Sims I downloaded from the Gallery, who was based on Marshal from Animal Crossing, eloped with his rich wife in her mansion. He is a young adult, and she was an adult, so he ended up being a bit of a gold digger...whoops...
I made a single mother with her five kids, and later on made a male sim to live with her, so I could move them to a bigger house without having to use cheats, and also to give her a husband. Once they got along, I had them try for baby, and then elope.
Another male Sim I had eloped with Liberty Lee at his house, but once again I did try for baby, before they eloped.
Sometimes, I am focused on creating my Sim families, and focus more on making sure the kids are connected to their parents, that I have missed making the parents linked to each other as a couple, so I try to get them together right away to get them linked in-game.
I am kind of impatient with planning weddings, because I want them to get together as soon as possible to have kids. If they don't have premade kids, they are parents through adoption, or have kids right away.
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I decided for one couple's wedding to have it at Myshuno Meadows because it has all the necessities. They invited all the guests, hired the caterer, and so forth. They had to travel there from another 'world' and when they arrived, it was pouring rain.
All my other Sims have eloped, most in their underwear next to the bed after their first woo hoo. Or in the bathroom of all places.
In my current challenge, the main character, Essa, and her fiancé, Josh, will eventually elope as well. But they will have a wedding arch located in a very romantic and beautiful spot for their wedding. They will throw a big reception later for family and friends.
With all my couples, after the proposal, the female wears an engagement ring if there will be a lengthy engagement. Both will wear wedding bands after the ceremony. The bride always takes the groom's last name, except in Legacies, the Not So Berry and Drifter challenges. In those cases, the groom takes the bride's last name.
A few pics under the spoiler. *Note - I apologize for the quality of some of these screenshots as they're very old and were taken on an underpowered laptop I had at the time.
Bobby Sue Pitchford and Sam Murdock - Trailer Trash Challenge, only Goaled Wedding. He was a food stall vendor.
Joel and Alaina Hunter - My first and only Super Sims couple, backyard elopement. She was his mail carrier.
Josh Hunter and Zoe (Patel) Hunter - Apocalypse Challenge, backyard elopement
Ella McDonough and Don (Lothario) McDonough - Drifter House 01, kitchen elopement after Ella just gave birth. Don is in his underwear.
Britta McDonough and Armando (Price) McDonough - Drifter House 04, Romance Festival elopement with fireworks. She had just learned she was pregnant. He was the Hermit of Granite Falls.
Velamint Berry and Brooks (Stern) Berry - Not So Berry Challenge, Von Haunt Chalet Estate elopement. The ghost of Lady Mimsy Alcorn Shallot played the piano for them during the ceremony. He was a bartender and a distant relative of Mimsy.
Iris and Leonardo Gleason - Elder Homeless Challenge, The Bluffs elopement. Leo was a younger community gardener Iris met while doing the challenge.
Happy Simming everyone!
As for naming conventions and proposal, I'm mostly traditional with it (with the males proposing and being the family-name bearers), unless I feel the sim would instead combine their last names (amalgamated, not hyphenated), though that only happens if they seem particularly attached to their family (in backstory or in play).
Now that I think about it, maybe I should figure out a different "ceremony" or tradition to cement the relationship, then just have them elope (to emulate the ceremony adding the status). Could be fun coming up with something trial-esque like some cultures do.