Why is it rude to cook at somebodys house?

StrawberryYogurt · February 2020

I just got kicked out of my friends house for cooking, although we're both hungry. I know if I was spending the night itd be fine, but throughout the series it is a kick-out offense. Why?

So_Money · February 2020

It’s not as bad as sims spending the night at their significant other’s house and being told off for having a shower in the morning.

Vivi_WillowTree · February 2020

They've had that notification since launch. I'm assuming they don't want to go back and fix it. You'll get the same notification if you go to a family members house and cook, shower etc. I can see why it would be a problem at an acquaintance house, but not family or friends houses. I just ignore it or give them the always welcome trait.

drakharis · February 2020

Do you have the reward trait "Always Welcome"? If not, cheat enough reward points if you must to buy it for your sim. This will help you out a lot with different interactions when visiting another sim.

Now to answer your question with an example. I think it's like if I visit my mom and help her out. Unless I ask her if she minds if I cook her dinner she'll get mad at me because these are her pots and pans (even if I bring food over to cook) and I am making a mess of her kitchen. In her mind, she is thinking I'm just going to leave a mess and force my dietary needs on her. Which is far from the truth more often than not it's because I saw this recipe I want to try out on somebody in my family because we are all very open-minded when it comes to different cuisine. I know if its something she really likes I can make it for the rest of my family when we have family get-togethers. However, if I ask her if I can cook a nice meal over her home and tell her I'll clean up afterwards she is more likely to say yes. I suppose that sims are similar in their reactions. They might think your sim is using food they got from the grocery for a specific meal or will leave their home a mess as a result of cooking them a meal.

DeKay · February 2020

Yeah, it's dumb. I don't know why. -.- They probably did cuz I think they know I always like my sim to go Geoffrey's house and use the grill to try to burn his house down.

Or that other time where I keep on making a mess in the kitchen with all the uncooked food. Sigh... I miss those days. LOL!

x4m1r4 · February 2020

IRL, I would consider its rude as well, even among family members. I love my privacy & don't appreciate if one is messing up with my place!

But, I would say that, Always Welcome trait could help your Sims a lot. Perhaps we need another interaction where we could ask the house owner if we could cook or something similar.

NADYSOPHIE · February 2020

kaylin205 wrote: »

They've had that notification since launch. I'm assuming they don't want to go back and fix it. You'll get the same notification if you go to a family members house and cook, shower etc. I can see why it would be a problem at an acquaintance house, but not family or friends houses. I just ignore it or give them the always welcome trait.

yeah I don't understand why family members are kick out of the house for cooking. My young adult went to university and I put in the campus and then I decided to go home to visit family and he got kicked out for cooking I was like ''wth? but you are his mom how can you kick him out?'' T-T I had to buy the reward always welcome to my sim to not have issues u.u

Feisbukaite · February 2020

My sims were kicked out of the brothers house for trying to feed his hungry toddler 🤦🏼‍♀️ I wish they would fix this issue. I love going with my sims to visit their extended family, but this problem makes it impossible

Kim5496 · February 2020

I think this has more to do with the relationship system being messed up than anything else. There is really no difference if you have an old friend or you just met someone and became friends. There is no difference between going to visit your family or a friend. (as far as the game is concerned) The whole system needs a huge overhaul. The game should recognize "hey this is your parents home, more things should slide" as opposed to going to a friends house where you wouldn't necessarily start randomly cooking or taking a shower. I agree though it's frustrating.

WaitWhatYT · February 2020

Kim5496 wrote: »

I think this has more to do with the relationship system being messed up than anything else. There is really no difference if you have an old friend or you just met someone and became friends. There is no difference between going to visit your family or a friend. (as far as the game is concerned) The whole system needs a huge overhaul. The game should recognize "hey this is your parents home, more things should slide" as opposed to going to a friends house where you wouldn't necessarily start randomly cooking or taking a shower. I agree though it's frustrating.

Totally agree, I know I'd react differently to say, someone I know and trust and love coming over my place and cooking on my stove (I'd welcome it, feed me plz), than somebody I've just met.

At any rate, it's super annoying but the Always Welcome reward trait does wonders and it is thankfully pretty cheap

Hoverael · February 2020

That always welcome trait should be a requirement for anyone joining that upper crusts club since you are meeting at the Bjergsen's house. it is the only time i tried to cook at someone elses house and Sofia came down to scold my sim for cooking.

I don't understand why EA just leaves it in the game after all this time, i mean they make a big fuss about fixing game bugs and don't fix the ones that should be fixed like this one. the door glitch; specifically trying to exit a bathroom or enter an apartment that suddenly fails to recognise. switching off a radio and the sim is still apparently listening to music and getting fun from it even though you turned it off, the order is still there.. so many things to correct than just these.

Thunderbat87 · February 2020

The first trait I give ALL my sims are the «always welcome» one. Then I don’t really need to think about cooking, showering etc in other peoples houses.

Dianesims · February 2020

It’s inappropriate to cook, shower, sleep or whatever at your sims’s friend’s house, but a stranger coming in, using their computer, swimming in their pool, watching their tv, even sleeping there or interacting with their kid is absolutely fine......like what the heck ?

logion · February 2020

Because you are taking something that someone already paid for and using it for something else.

...kinda like the 20th anniversary.

ddd994 · February 2020

Lol well it’s not rocket science, you can’t go bum off other sims and their homes? A) yes cooking, showering and sleeping are inappropriate activities to do around somebody else’s home.

it’s a difficulty measure, you can’t start a new game and go bum of the landgrabs. C) you can earn aspiration traits to over ride this (pretty sure it’s like dirt cheap too)...

It’s clearly not a glitch? Why are people always trying to pacify this game 🙈 Isn’t the sims 4 easy enough already?

StrawberryYogurt · February 2020

Its not somerhing to "fix" since its always been a part of the series, my question is why is it a feature anyways. I guess to stop your from living in someone else's house?

Camkat · February 2020

StrawberryYogurt wrote: »

Its not somerhing to "fix" since its always been a part of the series, my question is why is it a feature anyways. I guess to stop your from living in someone else's house?

I think you hit the nail on the head there.

I still think that if you have high enough relationship though, that it shouldn't be a problem. When my best friend comes over and cooks IRL, I'm all fist pumping because now I don't have to!

Netzspannung · February 2020

I would personally consider it extremely rude IRL if anyone came to my house to cook, shower or sleep - even more so if they'd try to feed my pet or toddler - without asking first. So my question would not be why this is in the game, but rather why you cannot ask for permission to do certain things while you are at another Sim's house. For close friends and family the answer should always be yes. But since the 'Always Welcome' trait, which has been mentioned a bunch of times in this thread, is so cheap it doesn't really bother me while playing the game.

Dianesims · February 2020

Ok but if your sim and the sim whose house they’re in have a high enough relationship it should be fine for them to cook, shower and sleep there, they’d have their permission.....

ddd994 wrote: »

Lol well it’s not rocket science, you can’t go bum off other sims and their homes? A) yes cooking, showering and sleeping are inappropriate activities to do around somebody else’s home. it’s a difficulty measure, you can’t start a new game and go bum of the landgrabs. C) you can earn aspiration traits to over ride this (pretty sure it’s like dirt cheap too)...

It’s clearly not a glitch? Why are people always trying to pacify this game 🙈 Isn’t the sims 4 easy enough already?

elanorbreton · February 2020

Also, a uni student living at uni is no longer classed as living at home, so if they visit their own household and start cooking they need the reward trait or get deemed inappropriate.

Irl when my son comes home during uni breaks I certainly wouldn't think it was inappropriate for him to cook, shower or sleep lol.

marcel21 · February 2020

as the other simmer posted,
there is a cheap trait you can buy in reward gifts called.

ALWAYS WELCOME

DevilNDisguise · February 2020

I've no idea why this exists, but it's always annoyed me. I used to use the "always welcome" reward trait, but now I have a mod that allows me to go over and do whatever, without having to worry about adding a trait to every Sim I play.

Cinebar · February 2020

StrawberryYogurt wrote: »

Its not somerhing to "fix" since its always been a part of the series, my question is why is it a feature anyways. I guess to stop your from living in someone else's house?

It hasn't always been there. I had a Sim who was homeless in this game at the first. He went around to homes and cooked, showered and slept in TS4. I loved that. Because I am their god. I rule all houses. Lol But anyway it was patched to the best of my knowledge to be inapproriate when they needed to make Always Welcome more relevant than it was because at first it did nothing because Sims were always welcome anyway.

GalacticGal · February 2020

First time my friend helped herself in my mother's kitchen I was aghast. This was in RL. I was raised you just don't do that, nor do you touch the items on your friend's dresser top. You don't peek into cabinets in their bathroom, either. Also, we never, ever, EVER just walked in. Took me a very long time to even just walk-in at my parents' house after I moved out. Even then I would knock as I was opening the door.

It's strange to think of the societal rules of good behavior that once were. This appears to be a hold-over, especially when the Sims are family. That one doesn't make sense to me, despite how I was raised. If our Sims were given the interaction to 'ask' first, but there isn't such an interaction, else they should be free to prepare food. It's very hard when the active Sim is the 'guest' and the host Sim is starving, for instance. The natural response is to have the active Sim fix some food. Just to be scolded and/or asked to leave the premises.

fruitsbasket101 · February 2020

I can understand why they have it for friends houses. I wouldn't just go to a friends house IRL and start cooking with out asking first. But with family I don't get why they would kick you out. I wouldn't kick out my siblings if they came over just because they wanted to cook something.

FurSimsOfficial · February 2020

They need to tell us WHY this weird 'issue' still is not being fixed. I truly wonder. What gets in the way of fixing this, cause it was implanted in our game with the effort of doing so, so it seems like taking it out must effect something else.
I mean seriously, hasn't there been enough threads already about this ridiculous event.
I wish traits would have to do with this, then a general rule of 'rudeness' which isnt rude at all if your good friends or family.

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