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Compatibility?
AntoniaBaybee
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Do the sims we create have any preference to gender/looks in a potential lover?
I created a female sim, played her a few days and created a new male sim to move in with her. They worked so hard on their friendship, maxed it out and then I thought a simple flirt interaction would work since they were best friends but they both took this negatively and had thought clouds of each others faces on it with a no sign through it. They were both happy at the time I tried to attempt them to flirt.
It wasn't until I had the incense burn sandalwood and they both got flirty that the interactions were accepted but I have never had this happen before with my other sims and they have even been in bad moods when flirts were attempted.
I created a female sim, played her a few days and created a new male sim to move in with her. They worked so hard on their friendship, maxed it out and then I thought a simple flirt interaction would work since they were best friends but they both took this negatively and had thought clouds of each others faces on it with a no sign through it. They were both happy at the time I tried to attempt them to flirt.
It wasn't until I had the incense burn sandalwood and they both got flirty that the interactions were accepted but I have never had this happen before with my other sims and they have even been in bad moods when flirts were attempted.
Antonia Louise 
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It works a little in flirty mood but not always
There is a mod by itasan2 on mod the sims that lets you peek into the lives of all your npcs Sims including their gender preferences without loading the household.
http://modthesims.info/download.php?t=576053
azoresman and scumbumbo have both made mods that let you set the gender preferences of sims.
azoresman's: http://modthesims.info/download.php?t=576385
scumbumbo's: http://modthesims.info/download.php?t=543228
As another member here pointed out, I find that it's usually not a great idea to make the sims "good friends" before moving on to romantic socials. Sometimes it works, but there have been other times I've had sims who had very high friendship meters basically become "friend-zoned" by the game. I'm not entirely sure if it's a glitch or by design, but some of my couples in these scenarios end up being labeled as "just good friends" without ever being labeled with one of the romantic tags. I've discovered that if you start with the lighter romantic socials ("compliment appearance", "flirt") and alternate those between friendly socials at around a 60-70% full friendship bar (just higher than "friends" but before "good friends"), you can get there eventually. It's also important to make sure the context of their conversation is positive. If all else fails and they still reject romantic socials, knock their relationship down a bit with a few mean interactions. After getting them to go from "good friends" to "friends", let them cool down for a couple sim days. Once some time has passed, go back and build the friendship up with a few friendly socials to get them into a pleasant conversation and then ease your way into the romantic socials. I've used this method a couple times and it hasn't failed yet.
I am defo no expert on 4 romantics but I usually like to play singles and then add a sim I make in cas/gallery into the household with a view to them being in a partnership/marriage but have also found it can be difficult actually getting them together romantically until I sent them both to the romantic festival when the message pops up and they both drink the sakura tea and I have them throw petals at one another and after that it has never taken me long at all to progress the romantic relationship from that point. I have done this with several couples so far and it is still working me so it’s now my go to strategy when I want couples to get together
@klestrella
That's also good advice re the friendship bar because I have also found sometimes being great friends does not automatically lead to them coming together romantically
I think different relationships start for them in different ways. I've had some Sims interact with a newer non-controllable Sim who basically walks into their bedroom and waits for the action to get started. Those Sims are immediately really interested in taking it to the next level. I've just had a ridiculously hard time getting my current Sim, Isabel, with Bjorn Bjergsen. That took a LONG time. He was flirty at first but then would shut her down and friendzone her all the time so they did end up as "Just Good Friends" but kept running into each other. I finally ended up forcing him into a flirty mood with cocktails and then baking the flirty heart cookies and serving them to him which actually worked. Now, they are both really into each other but man that took a while. Meanwhile, she's been seeing that Paolo Rocca guy off and on the whole time with no complications. I have no idea where that plotline is going but that's a different subject. Lol.
Now that my Sim and Bjorn have hooked up, they are both "Just Good Friends" and "Soulmates". Lol. She and the less complicated Paolo are "Sweethearts". Compatibility seems like it can be more complicated now but I don't really mind it. Some Sims are easier and more compatible together than others. I was able to get her out of the friendzone though.