I personally tend to play monogamous households and very rarely do I make my sims cheat.. When I do make them cheat, I tend to do it for the story if I'm getting bored, similar to a ton of people on this thread. If the two sims are already in a relationship where they are expected to be committal, I'd make sure they were committed and didn't eye anyone else! :P
If they were in a committed relationship and I made one of them cheat, I would most-likely plan for them to break-up/divorce afterwards and if I saw the person that cheated in a good light I would pretend nothing ever happened and carry on with my game. It solely depends on the sim. :P
Obviously, I don't support adultery in any way in real life, and I don't think anyone should cheat on their lover in any circumstances! :o
I prefer monogamous, although I have had Sims cheat quite a lot in the past, especially in Sims 2. It was crazy at times for them trying not to get caught! In Sims 3, I toned things down quite a bit, but there were still a few escapades. In Sims 4, I play strictly monogamously now, and none of my couples have cheated on each other, not even autonomously when I play in rotation. I think they can be trained!
You've got some good sims! I just went for another romance created by the game. It was a couple who I never thought would cheat each other... but now that I think of it their woohoos were never rated that good and the husband also just grew old so surely they're not getting any better. The wife had some feelings for my escort sim and it just seemed like something that I should play out.
I would play it polymorous in this game in a heartbeat if it were possible. That's why that anti-jealousy trait is something I try to get for my sims. It's not to make them "cheaters".
It's funny though some sims I wish would get jealous but some sims ... jealousy just isn't for them. I wish it could be built in the game better. Like a polymorous trait.. instead of player. Those could have less difficulty with other polymorous sims.. Then if they started a relationship with a monogamous type all heck would break loose...
Well the only way I know of doing it now, if have 2 of the sims in a 3-way relationship complete the serial romance aspiration. Downside to that is you'd have to change their character and date loads of people at the same time to get it.
I would play it polymorous in this game in a heartbeat if it were possible. That's why that anti-jealousy trait is something I try to get for my sims. It's not to make them "cheaters".
It's funny though some sims I wish would get jealous but some sims ... jealousy just isn't for them. I wish it could be built in the game better. Like a polymorous trait.. instead of player. Those could have less difficulty with other polymorous sims.. Then if they started a relationship with a monogamous type all heck would break loose...
Well the only way I know of doing it now, if have 2 of the sims in a 3-way relationship complete the serial romance aspiration. Downside to that is you'd have to change their character and date loads of people at the same time to get it.
Yeah you have to do all the work first I suppose I could cheat through the romance aspiration.. but I hate to cheat. Dating around can get tedious if you've done it on multiple sims lol.
I like monogamy... I am romantic outside of The Sims, so in game I always find a soulmate and keep it forever. Sometimes I make a serial romantic kind of sim and date a lot of sims for fun, but that ususlly don't last because I always find "the one". What I do enjoy thoug, Is making married sims break up with their spouses if I want them for my sim.
With the sure amount of people answering Monogamy, maybe EA should take note and incorporate that better into their "relationship" programming. The Sims have always seemed so promiscuous which is fine, but not when they are in a healthy relationship. I've always found it frustrating how easy it is to pickup married Sims or for them to be led astray - even my own Sims.
It would be nice to see emotions play a bigger part in this sense too.
My sims are faithful, but not neccessarily monogamous.
Some meet as children and proceed all the way to married couple without ever looking right or left. Others take a long time, being with many potential partners, before they decide on "the one". But once they have commited to one or more partners, my sims stay faithful to their love(s).
(Granted, it takes a few mods and the occasional emergency exit-without-saving to explain the concept of nonstandard relationships to the game )
It does happen that an even better partner presents itself and marriages fail, but it is rare. In those cases heartache and divorce happen rather quickly, with no prolonged secret affairs. Cheating almost exclusively happens in my (pseudo)feudal cultures where arranged marriages are brokered. But even then a sim´s "secret" lover is often known by about 90% of the population, the legit spouse included.
In previous games it depended on the sim/family. For the most part I prefer monogamy because I'm a loyal person in real life. But every now and then a family/couple is so boring that I feel the need to spice things up.
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Now I'm surprised how many people choose monogamy haha! To be honest its always kinda bugged me how "easy" it is for a sim to cheat...I wish EA would make it more difficult for a married Sim/in a good relationship to cheat/be tempted.
Totally agree.. and they should have a "guilt" emotion perhaps.. so if they cheated they could feel guilty about it and perhaps cave in and tell their partner? Sims should also be able to pick up on things which indicate their spouse is being unfaithful too. An example being perhaps the smell of another sims perfume on their spouse? Or perhaps the mistress left behind her bra? It needs some improvements that's for sure.
I play with people who are both monogamous and cheaters. Sometimes I just like to have a sim cheat to mix things up a bit by having the one sim cheat on their spouse, get caught, then work to fix the marriage. I try not to have more than one kid outside a relationship when I cheat, but I hate that the other sim doesn't realize that its not their kid.
100% agree about sims not being able to tell that the kid isn't theirs. I mean come on... if both sims have a dark complexion and the mother pops out a pale kid with a completely different hair colour.... it should be pretty obvious something is up. They should have a "demand paternity test" interaction lol!
I usually play monogamous, because I get enjoyment out of seeing my Sims happy with a special person. I'm trying to craft a poly household to see if I can make that work, and I haven't actually tried to create a player in Sims 4, although I probably should, because I'm finding the socializing in it so much easier than earlier games.
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I play with people who are both monogamous and cheaters. Sometimes I just like to have a sim cheat to mix things up a bit by having the one sim cheat on their spouse, get caught, then work to fix the marriage. I try not to have more than one kid outside a relationship when I cheat, but I hate that the other sim doesn't realize that its not their kid.
100% agree about sims not being able to tell that the kid isn't theirs. I mean come on... if both sims have a dark complexion and the mother pops out a pale kid with a completely different hair colour.... it should be pretty obvious something is up. They should have a "demand paternity test" interaction lol!
This has always bugged me too - I remember in the Sims 3 cheated fathers simply became the "step" dad of the illegitimate child like it was the most normal thing in the world. Not only being labelled "step father" implies they KNOW the child isn't there's but its also a tad unrealistic since unless it was plainly obvious (aka skin color) unless they knew their wife cheated - how would they otherwise know?
In TS2, I made my sims cheat quite a lot. In TS3, I think I only had two sims have an affair. I made a sim who went after Thornton Wolff. It was going well and he had dumped Morgana but then something happened and my sim froze outside his house. Resetting her didn't work so I just deleted the save. The other sim joined the Law Enforcement career. She bumped into Marty Keaton one day in the park and began an affair with him. The day after he left Justine and moved in with my sim I remembered that Justine was my sim's work partner. Justine was obviously angry about being left a single mum so my sim's work performance bar took a big hit. I got bored and deleted that save too. In TS4, I only have two married couples so far and I don't want either of them cheating on each other. One of the husbands always wants to flirt with Bella Goth when she comes over (she's friends with my sim, Katerina) so I have to keep him busy on the treadmill until she leaves.
I agree that sims should be able to tell when a child isn't theirs.
I don't think I've ever intentionally had a sim cheat on their boyfriend/girlfriend or spouse, but occasionally my single sims will have more than one romantic interest. It's interesting to read how other people play their couples.
Monogamy ONLY. I also do not ever engage in any other kind of play in my game. They don't have to be married - but they do have to be faithful no matter what. I never play gold digger type or gigolo's. I don't like those kind of people in real life - so they are not going to be in my game. My sims are friendly sims to everyone - but totally faithful to their beloved. I also have not played but one married couple in my game because of the toddler thing - I don't want any Sims babies so basically all my sims are just friends. I rarely had couple marry as YA's anyway except when I played Legacies and again without toddlers that will not happen in Sims 4 (playing legacies - as I use Sims 2's Original Pinstar Legacy rules and point system - which is impossible in Sims 4 - between the no toddler issue and the ghost culling - this game in my eyes is not suited to my style of legacy play. But I am not really attached to any Sims in Sims 4 - like I am to those in Sims 2 and Sims 3.
Ideally for the non-legacy households I would allow the sims to be fancy free - with no real attachment until toward the end of their YA time. It is long in my game as I play the longest aging in the game possible and I try not to let any sims get serious about a mate until they are on the last days of YA hood - then they settle down with Mr or Mrs right. Again I stress that is only in Sims 2 or Sims 3 - I don't play enough Sims 4 to care really with the way the game is so far. My sims in this game are all just friends - no dating - none of that.
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Monogamy ONLY. I also do not ever engage in any other kind of play in my game. They don't have to be married - but they do have to be faithful no matter what. I never play gold digger type or gigolo's. I don't like those kind of people in real life - so they are not going to be in my game. My sims are friendly sims to everyone - but totally faithful to their beloved.
I'm pretty much with you on this - I have played the others but those game saves don't last very long for me at all - i typically am not happy until all relationships in the household are maxed out and everything is good. Love my faithful sims, regardless of what series I am playing! Maybe not as much drama, but I like it.
Oh, but I have been known to steal some sims from their boyfriends/girlfriends - so maybe I do have a little homewrecker tolerance in me - but only in the game!
Up front I'll say I don't believe in cheating in rl, but we're talking about the sims here.
I found that if I tried to force my sim into a marriage with someone they really don't want, the marriage ends up a bust. So I will let my sims decide who they want, sometimes with some disasterous results, lol. There is a NRaas mod that takes the romance out of kissing and woohooing so the wonky reputation system won't label them.
In Sims 3, I had a sim who would woohoo with a snake, but she wanted to get married to another girl (in Twinbrooke). My sim continued her wanton ways and got caught in a rendezvous and her wife beat the snot out of her. (I tried to tell her but she wouldn't listen.) After a couple of sim weeks, they started becoming friendly again and ended up remarried. This time Holly kept her tomfoolery to herself, lol. (She did 99% of this indiscretion) autonomously.
I love having my sim date around but when they hit that adult stage I'm ready for them to settle down, hopefully they are ready too.
I'm a pretty lax sim god and will let my sims do about anything they want but if they get burned, it's their fault, not mine.
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If they were in a committed relationship and I made one of them cheat, I would most-likely plan for them to break-up/divorce afterwards and if I saw the person that cheated in a good light I would pretend nothing ever happened and carry on with my game. It solely depends on the sim. :P
Obviously, I don't support adultery in any way in real life, and I don't think anyone should cheat on their lover in any circumstances! :o
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Well the only way I know of doing it now, if have 2 of the sims in a 3-way relationship complete the serial romance aspiration. Downside to that is you'd have to change their character and date loads of people at the same time to get it.
Yeah you have to do all the work first I suppose I could cheat through the romance aspiration.. but I hate to cheat. Dating around can get tedious if you've done it on multiple sims lol.
It would be nice to see emotions play a bigger part in this sense too.
Some meet as children and proceed all the way to married couple without ever looking right or left. Others take a long time, being with many potential partners, before they decide on "the one". But once they have commited to one or more partners, my sims stay faithful to their love(s).
(Granted, it takes a few mods and the occasional emergency exit-without-saving to explain the concept of nonstandard relationships to the game
It does happen that an even better partner presents itself and marriages fail, but it is rare. In those cases heartache and divorce happen rather quickly, with no prolonged secret affairs. Cheating almost exclusively happens in my (pseudo)feudal cultures where arranged marriages are brokered. But even then a sim´s "secret" lover is often known by about 90% of the population, the legit spouse included.
Totally agree.. and they should have a "guilt" emotion perhaps.. so if they cheated they could feel guilty about it and perhaps cave in and tell their partner? Sims should also be able to pick up on things which indicate their spouse is being unfaithful too. An example being perhaps the smell of another sims perfume on their spouse? Or perhaps the mistress left behind her bra? It needs some improvements that's for sure.
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100% agree about sims not being able to tell that the kid isn't theirs. I mean come on... if both sims have a dark complexion and the mother pops out a pale kid with a completely different hair colour.... it should be pretty obvious something is up. They should have a "demand paternity test" interaction lol!
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This has always bugged me too - I remember in the Sims 3 cheated fathers simply became the "step" dad of the illegitimate child like it was the most normal thing in the world. Not only being labelled "step father" implies they KNOW the child isn't there's but its also a tad unrealistic since unless it was plainly obvious (aka skin color) unless they knew their wife cheated - how would they otherwise know?
I agree that sims should be able to tell when a child isn't theirs.
Ideally for the non-legacy households I would allow the sims to be fancy free - with no real attachment until toward the end of their YA time. It is long in my game as I play the longest aging in the game possible and I try not to let any sims get serious about a mate until they are on the last days of YA hood - then they settle down with Mr or Mrs right. Again I stress that is only in Sims 2 or Sims 3 - I don't play enough Sims 4 to care really with the way the game is so far. My sims in this game are all just friends - no dating - none of that.
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I'm pretty much with you on this - I have played the others but those game saves don't last very long for me at all - i typically am not happy until all relationships in the household are maxed out and everything is good. Love my faithful sims, regardless of what series I am playing! Maybe not as much drama, but I like it.
Oh, but I have been known to steal some sims from their boyfriends/girlfriends - so maybe I do have a little homewrecker tolerance in me - but only in the game!
I found that if I tried to force my sim into a marriage with someone they really don't want, the marriage ends up a bust. So I will let my sims decide who they want, sometimes with some disasterous results, lol. There is a NRaas mod that takes the romance out of kissing and woohooing so the wonky reputation system won't label them.
In Sims 3, I had a sim who would woohoo with a snake, but she wanted to get married to another girl (in Twinbrooke). My sim continued her wanton ways and got caught in a rendezvous and her wife beat the snot out of her.
I love having my sim date around but when they hit that adult stage I'm ready for them to settle down, hopefully they are ready too.
I'm a pretty lax sim god and will let my sims do about anything they want but if they get burned, it's their fault, not mine.