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  • LeGardePourpreLeGardePourpre Posts: 13,980 Member
    edited October 2022
    Tough trait

    The usual "Boys don't cry", this ability to look strong no matter the situation.
    Goofball, Evil and Mean sims would think twice before doing Mean/mischief interactions against Tough sims.

    The Tough sims have good resistance to negative emotions (sadness, tense, uncomfortable, embarrassment, ...).

    The opposite trait would be Sensitive trait which would make the sims more affected emotionally by the events than usual.
  • ignominiusrexignominiusrex Posts: 2,680 Member
    I'm very happy to see that Play Catch, Pillow Fight, Body Hair and Shaving will be available soon.

    Me too, especially after getting spoilt to all of them being just an normal thing in Sims3 😄

    But that razor is way too big. I use an old fashioned safety razor too, where you drop in the double edged razor, and it's maybe an inch and a quarter, inch and a half at the most in length, not what looks like half q sandwich m, or a Hohner Pocket Pal Harmonica 😆

    @LeGardePourpre I think the "boys don't cry" idea is widely regarded as one of the most harmful ones in Western patriarchal societies, and for good cause, because choking off emotional expression is harmful to anyone who does it, and innumerable men have been to therapy trying to undo the damage that idea has caused.

    I personally overheard a father actively taunting his own crying young son, who was sitting on the sides of the tennis court. The man was mocking his son cruelly while the son tried to suppress it but he couldn't contain the tears and I never wanted to lay a man out worse than I did right then. I knew calling out the father would only make matters worse for the son, so I told the son very quietly as I passed, "it's ok to cry, you have nothing to be ashamed of" but I was shaking with rage at the father. Still, I know that likely, the harmful ideas of how to be man that the father was enmeshed in were likely pressed onto him just as harmful, by his own upbringing. It's generational trauma, and that awful, abusive father likely didn't invent it on his own, but was also a victimized boy once.

    Changes in hormones can induce changes in emotional experience and lability, as can many medications, but societies differ markedly in ideas about what it means to be a man and how that intersects with emotional expression, tenderness, and vulnerability such that we can see the falsehood in the notion that to be fully masculine, one must essentially be either an unfeeling robot, or worse, cruel and vindictive.

    Unfortunately that image of masculinity was deeply rooted in the culture of the British Empire which then carried forward into what later became its many diasporas, seeding ideals of masculinity that run counter to human virtue generally, when applied to anything except the battlefield.

    Men have to be able to live, love, and parent outside the battlefield though, so we all lose if we carry a tradition of having to live as if we had to kill or be killed tomorrow, every day from age 10 onwards. That kind of emotional lockdown itself does harm, causing and worsening social isolation and weakening social connections, which exacerbates stress.

    I know you didn't mean the extremes like that horrible misguided dad, but the insidiousness of the message that "boys don't cry" is that it is the basis of so much hidden harm, not just to boys, but the men they later become, making them less fit to have emotionally connected, caring relationships with anyone.

    We should replace it with the more truthful statement: "sociopaths don't cry".

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  • EleriEleri Posts: 153 Member
    edited November 2022
    Tough trait

    The Tough sims have good resistance to negative emotions (sadness, tense, uncomfortable, embarrassment, ...).

    The opposite trait would be Sensitive trait which would make the sims more affected emotionally by the events than usual.
    This is a lot like the Emotional Control and Uncontrolled Emotions traits that we already have with Parenthood. They're not presented as masculine and they're more about finding healthy outlets for uncomfortable emotions that simply not feeling them, but the underlying effect of increased resilience makes it too similar.
    Unfortunately that image of masculinity was deeply rooted in the culture of the British Empire which then carried forward into what later became its many diasporas, seeding ideals of masculinity that run counter to human virtue generally, when applied to anything except the battlefield.
    More of a Northern European thing generally than a British thing specifically, also there many places in the world with little or no history of British influence that have similar values. Meanwhile, the country where I was born used to be under British occupation and we're as melodramatic as we ever were. :'(:o:D
    -No, my almost-elderly mother, I don't think it's a good time for you to try for a baby.
    -Yes, person I barely know, you have my blessing to hang out with Johnny Zest.
    -No person with the mean, hot-headed and self-absorbed traits, I don't think you should get married.
  • ignominiusrexignominiusrex Posts: 2,680 Member
    Eleri wrote: »
    Tough trait

    The Tough sims have good resistance to negative emotions (sadness, tense, uncomfortable, embarrassment, ...).

    The opposite trait would be Sensitive trait which would make the sims more affected emotionally by the events than usual.
    This is a lot like the Emotional Control and Uncontrolled Emotions traits that we already have with Parenthood. They're not presented as masculine and they're more about finding healthy outlets for uncomfortable emotions that simply not feeling them, but the underlying effect of increased resilience makes it too similar.
    Unfortunately that image of masculinity was deeply rooted in the culture of the British Empire which then carried forward into what later became its many diasporas, seeding ideals of masculinity that run counter to human virtue generally, when applied to anything except the battlefield.
    More of a Northern European thing generally than a British thing specifically, also there many places in the world with little or no history of British influence that have similar values. Meanwhile, the country where I was born used to be under British occupation and we're as melodramatic as we ever were. :'(:o:D

    Good to know! 😄 and come to think on it, no one ever accused the Irish for instance, of being out of touch with their feelings. You make many good points to exonerate the British Stiff Upper Lip.

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  • LeGardePourpreLeGardePourpre Posts: 13,980 Member
    edited December 2022
    Military Service

    For young adult sims who wants to obtain the Brave trait. The Bro sims appreciate the camaraderie, a good way to create solid friendships.

    For the teens who didn't or failed to grow up with good character values, Military service will give them Responsible, Mediator and Emotional Control traits.

    If it's done before going to University, the sim will get an additional scholarship.
  • LeGardePourpreLeGardePourpre Posts: 13,980 Member
    edited January 22
    Firefighter / EMT volunteer

    Help the fire department or emergency services
  • LeGardePourpreLeGardePourpre Posts: 13,980 Member
    edited January 26
    Create-a-Bear-sim

    The chubby sims need additional options to customize them better, maybe a "rounded" body/head slider and new body hair.

  • GrimlyFiendishGrimlyFiendish Posts: 589 Member
    edited January 30
    Unfortunately that image of masculinity was deeply rooted in the culture of the British Empire which then carried forward into what later became its many diasporas, seeding ideals of masculinity that run counter to human virtue generally, when applied to anything except the battlefield.

    Men have to be able to live, love, and parent outside the battlefield though, so we all lose if we carry a tradition of having to live as if we had to kill or be killed tomorrow, every day from age 10 onwards. That kind of emotional lockdown itself does harm, causing and worsening social isolation and weakening social connections, which exacerbates stress.

    If you haven't already read it I highly recommend the translated text of a 13th century Knight's biography (written in the 13th century), called 'The Life of William Marshal' (translation by Nigel Bryant)

    It's an absolutely fascinating look into 13th century life for a Knight, and also into what constituted 'ideals of masculinity' back then. Positive views of masculinity weren't just restricted to how well someone performed in battle or on the tournament field back then, the types of men who were held up as examples of what a man should strive to be were those who were trustworthy, loyal, kept their word, treated their families well, made sure those who were in their service were properly taken care of. You've got men openly weeping at funerals, or shedding tears because they're emotionally moved by a touching scene they've witness (perfectly acceptable, nothing to be shamed for), men walking arm in arm, or showing other forms of platonic affection with their close friends, men taking care to be well groomed, to sing, and dance for enjoyment. I suppose these days they'd be considered 'less than the male ideal' in the world of the 'real manly man', but we're talking seriously battle hardened warriors, who were also expected to have traits like morals and decency and kindness.

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