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  • MadameLeeMadameLee Posts: 31,518 Member
    edited August 2019
    I have this scenario where my parents aren't really letting me grow up. Besides Other Things, I been complaing for years about them not letting me date and I only discovered on Saturday they don't want me to get hurt while dating (pyschailly or emotionally) thing is now they (or more likely Mom) has said that, I have either two choices 1)go behind my parents back and date (Wednesday morns after work) I would inform other people but just not my parents or 2) live and die single (which I don't like) since Option 3 have no partner and raise a kid via ❤️❤️❤️❤️ donor (even though that way, with half-siblings if nearby, could get together with others) but that would also mean me having to raise the kid in the toxic environment I'm currently living in. So what should I do?
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  • simscognitosimscognito Posts: 16,515 Member
    I went to the doctors today for my chronic pain and my doctor thinks it might be neuropathical, which is what I have been suspecting. But the doctor didn't think there was anything he could do about it, but I don't think that's true. According to my aunt Neuropathical pain is treatable.
    I wish doctors were more up to date with some things.
    Anyway rant over. :/

    @MadameLee I'm sorry you're having trouble with your parents. Unfortunately I don't know what to advise you. Is it possible to write them a letter, writing down how you're feeling?
  • MadameLeeMadameLee Posts: 31,518 Member
    I went to the doctors today for my chronic pain and my doctor thinks it might be neuropathical, which is what I have been suspecting. But the doctor didn't think there was anything he could do about it, but I don't think that's true. According to my aunt Neuropathical pain is treatable.
    I wish doctors were more up to date with some things.
    Anyway rant over. :/

    @MadameLee I'm sorry you're having trouble with your parents. Unfortunately I don't know what to advise you. Is it possible to write them a letter, writing down how you're feeling?

    *hugs @simscognito* Sorry about the pain you're having problems with.


    They wouldn't listen even on paper..they didn't even care that as of May .. because of both SimLit and my *bacon* doctors asking me question about "getting pregnant soon?" that I want to be able to woohoo someone? They just tell me to read *bacon* books and watch TV shows to get a feel for dating. But what's good is that when i never had the REAL thing? I want to feel the real emotions of dating world..I hate being single They wouldn't allow me to date and they don't want me to volunteer-except as a 1-on-1 volunteer which I'm wary about for two reasons.. the main one is if TV is anything to go off by..old folks are going to tell stories if they're aware enough to remember stories and presumably one or more of those stories will be about their sweethearts (meeting them at dances presumably, or their marriages-like Maternal Grandparents marriage was on Maternal Grandma's birthday) . I get a triggered (ie: really upset) that I'm don't have a sweetheart of my own...just by looking at school friends' pictures of them getting engaged/married.
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  • emorrillemorrill Posts: 6,228 Member
    I went to the doctors today for my chronic pain and my doctor thinks it might be neuropathical, which is what I have been suspecting. But the doctor didn't think there was anything he could do about it, but I don't think that's true. According to my aunt Neuropathical pain is treatable.
    I wish doctors were more up to date with some things.
    Anyway rant over. :/

    Hear hear!
    Sometimes I think it's more about the money...and not about actually caring for and treating the patient. :pensive:

    I know not ALL doctors are like that, but pretty much ALL of them used to be so much better and more compassionate & informed in their care during my lifetime until about 10 years ago...... *sigh*

    Honestly though I think a lot of it nowadays is corporate (and pharmaceutical companies) that are more focused on money and making a profit that they burden the doctors with all these new polices and rules and that makes everything stressful for them. To the point that they don't want to do the extra mile...or they don't want to educate themselves on more. It's sad. :(

    Anyway, mini rant over for me too. :p

    {{{{Hugs}}}} <3 Hope you can find the right treatment. Being in any kind of chronic pain is just awful! :cry:
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  • MadameLeeMadameLee Posts: 31,518 Member
    edited September 2019
    Why should I bother answering the phone when I'm home alone, when it's my sister and she never likes to talk to me not even to leave a **** message to pass to the parents? The parents are angry I didn't answer my sister's phone call when they weren't in the house but what's the point when I know even if I AM pleasant she will just hang up and not leave a message?
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  • IvoryButterflyIvoryButterfly Posts: 1,183 Member
    MadameLee wrote: »
    I have this scenario where my parents aren't really letting me grow up. Besides Other Things, I been complaing for years about them not letting me date and I only discovered on Saturday they don't want me to get hurt while dating (pyschailly or emotionally) thing is now they (or more likely Mom) has said that, I have either two choices 1)go behind my parents back and date (Wednesday morns after work) I would inform other people but just not my parents or 2) live and die single (which I don't like) since Option 3 have no partner and raise a kid via plum donor (even though that way, with half-siblings if nearby, could get together with others) but that would also mean me having to raise the kid in the toxic environment I'm currently living in. So what should I do?
    Oh WOW, I mean... Yes i can see where your parents are coming from, but experimenting and learning how to deal with those things is part of life; flowers don't just grow from sunshine and clean water, they also have to have a bit of stinky manure to help the process too.
    But dating is also up to you, I mean,do you have suitor in mind who would like to go on a Date with you? If so, why not just go for a coffee date and see how things go?
    If you'd also like to go down the Plum Donor route, I don't see an issue with that either. Again though, that a very expensive route to take, but ... Just my opinion, you can so tell me to go get stuffed.
    Also, with your sister... just be polite and let her leave a message on the phones message service. She doesn't sound like a very nice person if she's not even going to be polite to you when you sound like you're trying to be nice to her.
    Just a thought.
    I went to the doctors today for my chronic pain and my doctor thinks it might be neuropathical, which is what I have been suspecting. But the doctor didn't think there was anything he could do about it, but I don't think that's true. According to my aunt Neuropathical pain is treatable.
    I wish doctors were more up to date with some things.
    Anyway rant over. :/
    Awww I'm so very sorry to hear that Simscognito. But yes you are right, it is curable, well, at least treatable, you might need to go get another Drs opinion about it, possibly even a specialist to assist you with what you need. Sometimes it can just take finding the right Dr who actually gives a ❤️❤️❤️❤️ *HUGS*



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  • friendsfan367friendsfan367 Posts: 26,651 Member
    i think alvins part bender. i was gonna hook him and beverly up but hes got a baby mama ehos not his girlfriend their expeting twins, so i guess its a big day in the lounge in game and rl. shad.
  • MadameLeeMadameLee Posts: 31,518 Member
    edited September 2019
    MadameLee wrote: »
    I have this scenario where my parents aren't really letting me grow up. Besides Other Things, I been complaing for years about them not letting me date and I only discovered on Saturday they don't want me to get hurt while dating (pyschailly or emotionally) thing is now they (or more likely Mom) has said that, I have either two choices 1)go behind my parents back and date (Wednesday morns after work) I would inform other people but just not my parents or 2) live and die single (which I don't like) since Option 3 have no partner and raise a kid via plum donor (even though that way, with half-siblings if nearby, could get together with others) but that would also mean me having to raise the kid in the toxic environment I'm currently living in. So what should I do?
    Oh WOW, I mean... Yes i can see where your parents are coming from, but experimenting and learning how to deal with those things is part of life; flowers don't just grow from sunshine and clean water, they also have to have a bit of stinky manure to help the process too.
    But dating is also up to you, I mean,do you have suitor in mind who would like to go on a Date with you? If so, why not just go for a coffee date and see how things go?
    If you'd also like to go down the Plum Donor route, I don't see an issue with that either. Again though, that a very expensive route to take, but ... Just my opinion, you can so tell me to go get stuffed.
    Also, with your sister... just be polite and let her leave a message on the phones message service. She doesn't sound like a very nice person if she's not even going to be polite to you when you sound like you're trying to be nice to her.
    Just a thought.

    @IvoryButterfly that's the problem I don't have any suitors I haven't been asked out (but that turned out to be a trap by some "Mean Girls" in drama class) since Gr. 12. I'm allowed to go to my day program in Ajax.. but people can only be friends (most of them are older then me from like 30s to my parents' age) nothing higher if I make sense(?) and most of them already have partners anyway. I'm allowed to go occasionally to Pickering Town Centre. I started bowling again with my bowling league (but that is like my day program- is more on the older side then the younger side. I looked for options outside of using online dating for finding people but nothing works really. 1)bars are out since I don't drink and being a women, also are dangerous 2)not a coffee person so coffee houses (like Coffee Culture) are out. 3)Haven't been a bookstore in my town since I was a baby- so the three nearest "bookstores" to me are in order 1)Oshawa Centre (a mall-which is difficult to get home from) 2)Chapters in Ajax and 3) a very small bookstore in Pickering Town Centre (another mall but a lot easier to get home from). 4)asking friends when the said friends are taken what's the point in asking them? I asked all 3 of my engaged friends and they never replied back not to even say "sorry we don't." 5)Speed dating cost $$ 6)volunteering. I want to volunteer in certain places but my parents are worried about stuff-working with animals (animal shelter), working with money (a gift shop in a retirement home), or talking on the phone ( volunteer receptionist at a Grandview Children's centre). 7)classes outside of fitness classes and dance classes for adults, there are literally no classes I'm interested in outside of a First Aids class. 8) Church wouldn't work because its like both bowling and the day program all older people. That people will grow up in town (normally) move out of town to college or something, and then move elsewhere to get a job and only come back to town (IF)they do when they have children. 9)I don't work for reasons, and even if I DID work.. it would be better not to date co-workers for much the same reason people at (day-program) can't date. 10) parties - it seems to be to be invited to any party you either need a)partner or b)be working. so I never get any invites to parties since I'm neither. 11)events/clubs- either they're in Toronto (I can't go into Toronto on my own) or they cost money $$.


    In a sense I'm trapped in like sort of three different town settings..because that's where my parents will let me be myself sort of:

    my town and the parents' home which I have never left outside of going to school- mostly by feet (elementary school/high school) or by bus (college). Older people in town know me since I have lived here for 29 years (my parents been here for 36? years out of my 29) and most of their kids are around my age and few of them still live at home. But most of them have moved out. Church is similar to the town gone there for 29 entire years.. and like towns folk near where I live.. they know me because of going for 29 years. Some church people are even on the bowling league mentioned above..the bowling alley is in Oshawa. I get a ride there by either my dad or someone else. The only other place I can go is an apartment building where a social room is set aside for my day-program in Ajax.
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  • friendsfan367friendsfan367 Posts: 26,651 Member
    MadameLee wrote: »
    MadameLee wrote: »
    I have this scenario where my parents aren't really letting me grow up. Besides Other Things, I been complaing for years about them not letting me date and I only discovered on Saturday they don't want me to get hurt while dating (pyschailly or emotionally) thing is now they (or more likely Mom) has said that, I have either two choices 1)go behind my parents back and date (Wednesday morns after work) I would inform other people but just not my parents or 2) live and die single (which I don't like) since Option 3 have no partner and raise a kid via plum donor (even though that way, with half-siblings if nearby, could get together with others) but that would also mean me having to raise the kid in the toxic environment I'm currently living in. So what should I do?
    Oh WOW, I mean... Yes i can see where your parents are coming from, but experimenting and learning how to deal with those things is part of life; flowers don't just grow from sunshine and clean water, they also have to have a bit of stinky manure to help the process too.
    But dating is also up to you, I mean,do you have suitor in mind who would like to go on a Date with you? If so, why not just go for a coffee date and see how things go?
    If you'd also like to go down the Plum Donor route, I don't see an issue with that either. Again though, that a very expensive route to take, but ... Just my opinion, you can so tell me to go get stuffed.
    Also, with your sister... just be polite and let her leave a message on the phones message service. She doesn't sound like a very nice person if she's not even going to be polite to you when you sound like you're trying to be nice to her.
    Just a thought.

    @IvoryButterfly that's the problem I don't have any suitors I haven't been asked out (but that turned out to be a trap by some "Mean Girls" in drama class) since Gr. 12. I'm allowed to go to my day program in Ajax.. but people can only be friends (most of them are older then me from like 30s to my parents' age) nothing higher if I make sense(?) and most of them already have partners anyway. I'm allowed to go occasionally to Pickering Town Centre. I started bowling again with my bowling league (but that is like my day program- is more on the older side then the younger side. I looked for options outside of using online dating for finding people but nothing works really. 1)bars are out since I don't drink and being a women, also are dangerous 2)not a coffee person so coffee houses (like Coffee Culture) are out. 3)Haven't been a bookstore in my town since I was a baby- so the three nearest "bookstores" to me are in order 1)Oshawa Centre (a mall-which is difficult to get home from) 2)Chapters in Ajax and 3) a very small bookstore in Pickering Town Centre (another mall but a lot easier to get home from). 4)asking friends when the said friends are taken what's the point in asking them? I asked all 3 of my engaged friends and they never replied back not to even say "sorry we don't." 5)Speed dating cost $$ 6)volunteering. I want to volunteer in certain places but my parents are worried about stuff-working with animals (animal shelter), working with money (a gift shop in a retirement home), or talking on the phone ( volunteer receptionist at a Grandview Children's centre). 7)classes outside of fitness classes and dance classes for adults, there are literally no classes I'm interested in outside of a First Aids class. 8) Church wouldn't work because its like both bowling and the day program all older people. That people will grow up in town (normally) move out of town to college or something, and then move elsewhere to get a job and only come back to town (IF)they do when they have children. 9)I don't work for reasons, and even if I DID work.. it would be better not to date co-workers for much the same reason people at (day-program) can't date.

    As someone who used to frequent starbucks i know that coffehouses have more than just coffee. they often sell tea and you can even get just water if you want.
  • MadameLeeMadameLee Posts: 31,518 Member
    Scenerio here There are 3 people- two parents and an adult kid. The kid cooks on Fridays and one of the only item they can do all by themselves is a taco salad. Dad is sick of taco salad despite only having it about like 4 times this summer. So about 6 times this summer the kid, with help been making Chicken Caesar salad and they're sick of making it-since with the exception of the 4.5 time of taco salad (the last one being in early August), leftovers from Bible camp (hot dogs), a week when Mom and kid were out of town, and last week's Quesadillas- all they (kid+parents) been Chicken Caesar most of the summer. The Mom suggested something similar a Southwestern pasta dish, but like the Chicken Caesar salad above.. the kid needs help with part of that dish.


    a)Taco Salad-can make 100% on their own
    b)Chicken Caesar Salad-needs help cutting the chicken, unless its cuts into pre-cut pieces for me to cut more.
    c)Southwestern Pasta Salad-is similar to taco salad but need pasta help.

    Also during the school year like winter time the Dad makes the same dishes over&over* over again and the kid is told to either a)eat it or b)fend for themselves if they don't want (A,B,C) meals. So how come its fine for the parents to tell the kid to "deal with it" but yet the adult kid cook can't tell the same to their Dad?

    Also whose should be able to decide what is for *** supper: the person's who going to be cooking, their sous chef (Mom) or the one who is tired of option A (Dad)?



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  • IvoryButterflyIvoryButterfly Posts: 1,183 Member
    @MadameLee WOW... ok, that sounds like a difficult situation you're in hun. And quite frankly, I've no idea how to help... other than said advice already given. (Hate being at a loss... grrr)
    From experience with dealing with a difficult parent, sometimes you have to just swallow your pride a little bit to keep the peace, or... come to an agreement that can work for everyone.
    Example; when I moved back in with my mother in my mid 20's, she was very fussy and only ate chicken or fish; being iron deficient I HAVE to eat red meat at least 3 times a week, or I get very sick on top of everything else I'm dealing with.
    So, one afternoon I sat down with her and we had a talk. Finally we came to an agreement, I'll cook what she wants to eat, but I'm also going to cook what I want to eat. At first she didn't like it but after a while she got use to it, after all, my food wasn't hurting her or being cooked in the same pan or anything.

    And... Hi everyone, I again became very buried with my illness.
    But today I decided to fight back as much as it pained me to , I was sick of not getting done what I've been dying to do, and that was get out my next chapter and start working on my third one!

    So Happily here it is, I really really hope you guys like it, please comment and stuff too, I'd love to know what you think.
    There's also a few little extras I've added to my blog where discussions can take place too in the comments sections too, I think the World Map is particularly interesting if I do say so myself... :D:D:D

    <3

    Bound By My Family: Ch 2-Growing-Up/
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  • IvoryButterflyIvoryButterfly Posts: 1,183 Member
    Hey @everyone; thankfully this past week has been very kind to me health wise and writing wise and I have my latest chapter out that I wanted to share with you all.

    Ch 3 - Binding Choices

    As Always I hope you like it and ALL comments are appreciated :)
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  • IvoryButterflyIvoryButterfly Posts: 1,183 Member
    Hi all, sorry I've been a bit quieter than I'd like; seems the universe is throwing me a few curve balls and I've been totally distracted and unable to get my writing mind into gear.

    No, I don;t know when my next chapter will be up, sorry :s
    There's a bit of behind the scenes work being organized for Bound By My Family and an new story, Unknown Heiress.

    There's also a Map section on my blog which I've shared my own theory about the Sims World Map and placement of where the towns/suburbs are, feel free to share your theories.
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  • MadameLeeMadameLee Posts: 31,518 Member
    I want to go to Pickering Town Centre on Wednesday to sort of "caught up with fast food" and also get time away from my parents after 10 of 11 nights with both parents in the same hotel room-(the first night the hotel couldn't do a triple so Dad got the single and Mom and I got the double room). But Mom doesn't see the point of me doing that if I'm going to be eating out w/ friends on the Friday for lunch?
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  • MadameLeeMadameLee Posts: 31,518 Member
    my day turn *** just moments after I got up because I couldn't **** sleep. Dad wanted me to try to help him when I had alredy tried helping Mom prior to the *Bacon* trip. But Dad wouldn't shut up longer enough for me to tell him until I YELLED over him. That I already tried to *** help Mom two days prior to our *bacon* trip.
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  • ninaumininaumi Posts: 360 Member
    Hi everyone! It’s been a long time since I’ve written anything and even gamed. However, I’m slowly getting past my internal resistance which has made me paralyzed in terms of ability to even attempt creating anything except my “productivity systems” (journals/apps/to-do lists, etc) and ideas that were always impossible for me to act upon, or were unrealistic. I have been, more or less, in a state of apathy and executive dysfunction for a long time.

    I can say that I am proud of my tiny first 3 “chapters” of The Meadows story. It seems like I’ve finally “caught my genius” as the writer Elizabeth Gilbert calls it. (you can search for her TED talk on it) It’s more like that than it is that I feel like a genius or more precisely, like a writer/artist/etc. I don’t regard myself as a highly artistic person, but when I recall “my genius” as something almost palpable, a spark within me that started that story, I think I won’t ever be able to “catch it” again. It was a sudden hit, and then it vanished. I wrote the 3rd part with much struggle, and after that, I’ve finally succumbed to lethargy. It’s not that I mind it so much anymore, but I want to continue with it, and I’ve also wanted to write here on this issue many times but couldn’t make myself do it.

    Nowadays, I have a perfect excuse to write about it every single day, at least for a little. I’m learning copywriting because I want to work in that field. It comprises primarily artistic people, and it is common sense for people to cultivate their creativity on the side, for themselves, too. I want to commit to writing SimLit every day when I wake up. I love doing it, and it would be beneficial to me in so many ways. But things like a writer’s block and clumsy writing techniques, which show my lack of artistry, bug me. I’m still somewhat hopeful though, given that I’m still planning to do it. I believe creative writing has the most potential for me to grow personally by, but it’s so ❤️❤️❤️❤️ hard. Is there anyone who writes (almost) every day and has it as a ritual? I would love to hear their thoughts on this, but also anyone else’s. Thanks in advance!
  • SourochaSourocha Posts: 1,465 Member
    ninaumi wrote: »
    Hi everyone! It’s been a long time since I’ve written anything and even gamed. However, I’m slowly getting past my internal resistance which has made me paralyzed in terms of ability to even attempt creating anything except my “productivity systems” (journals/apps/to-do lists, etc) and ideas that were always impossible for me to act upon, or were unrealistic. I have been, more or less, in a state of apathy and executive dysfunction for a long time.

    I can say that I am proud of my tiny first 3 “chapters” of The Meadows story. It seems like I’ve finally “caught my genius” as the writer Elizabeth Gilbert calls it. (you can search for her TED talk on it) It’s more like that than it is that I feel like a genius or more precisely, like a writer/artist/etc. I don’t regard myself as a highly artistic person, but when I recall “my genius” as something almost palpable, a spark within me that started that story, I think I won’t ever be able to “catch it” again. It was a sudden hit, and then it vanished. I wrote the 3rd part with much struggle, and after that, I’ve finally succumbed to lethargy. It’s not that I mind it so much anymore, but I want to continue with it, and I’ve also wanted to write here on this issue many times but couldn’t make myself do it.

    Nowadays, I have a perfect excuse to write about it every single day, at least for a little. I’m learning copywriting because I want to work in that field. It comprises primarily artistic people, and it is common sense for people to cultivate their creativity on the side, for themselves, too. I want to commit to writing SimLit every day when I wake up. I love doing it, and it would be beneficial to me in so many ways. But things like a writer’s block and clumsy writing techniques, which show my lack of artistry, bug me. I’m still somewhat hopeful though, given that I’m still planning to do it. I believe creative writing has the most potential for me to grow personally by, but it’s so plum hard. Is there anyone who writes (almost) every day and has it as a ritual? I would love to hear their thoughts on this, but also anyone else’s. Thanks in advance!

    @ninaumi Sorry for the non-productive times! :( It must be hard to be in the state you're in, and still keep on writing and creating, but don't give up! :triumph: Keep on writing if it makes you happy!

    On the subject of writing everyday, I try to write everyday. (10 minutes on busy days and 20-30 minutes on more calm days that's why my story takes so long to update shs) And when I set up that I'm going to write for 10 minutes, I'm going to do just that, even if I don't feel like it, just kinda ''forcing'' myself to use those minutes to write, even when I'm not in a ''creative'' mood, which in my opinion, relates to that frase about 10% inspiration and 90% pespiration. Writing in my opinion is kinda like that, not everyday the ''muse'' comes in whispers in your ear what to say, sometimes you gotta sit in front of a blank screen and make you really think, for a couple of minutes, what to write next.

    As Always, please take my advice with a grain of salt. I say ''forced'' but I still enjoy every moment I'm writing, that's why I still do to this day! Just because I make it as to some kind of shore, it doesn't mean I don't like it. I think they key word is ''didicpline''However, that's me. If you try forcing yourself and while using this minutes to Wright you don't feel good, or burned out, then there's no need to keep on doing it.

    I know, it's confusing. :p I hope you get it either way! :D Also, if you want Wright everyday, I suggest starting small. :) Try starting with like 10 minutes, and then gradually making it more time as you get confortable and used to this writing schedulle. Again, my opinion, and my personal idea! ;)
  • MadameLeeMadameLee Posts: 31,518 Member
    I'm in REALLY bad mood this morning. First thing is I came all the way to my ***** program for Samos and Roti lunch but the person who is suppose to be making it is NOT IN today so I could have stayed at home in BED instead of being bothered to come in.

    My other reason for a bad mood is once again my *** mother might have booked the weekend of Mother's Day next year for her play which conflicts with the bowling banquet. Mom suggests I go with Dad to the bowling banquet but 1)he will embarrass me somehow 2)he will probably want to go see Mom's play on the Saturday. and the 3rd thing is for myself 3)Because Mom's family hasn't tried really hard the last couple of years of getting together over the Winter and Summer holidays so the only time we get together these days is at what we have jokingly called the "Cast Party" the Saturday of Mom's play.
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  • MadameLeeMadameLee Posts: 31,518 Member
    I'm hate it when my parents talk about the future they (Mom really) either talk about a 75 year old woman who got married for the first time or Mom talk about Aunt Myrtle who had to live all her life with her mother. I want to find myself and one way of doing that is not sleeping in the same *** bedroom I been sleeping in since I was a toddler. Yet they still don't understand why I want to tour the Crisis beds centre next week. The other thing Mom sometimes suggests is that I might go first and since I want to have kids before that was to happen that's even more reason for me to be dating, NOW..
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  • IvoryButterflyIvoryButterfly Posts: 1,183 Member
    edited November 2019
    Hey guys,
    I'm not technically back ye, but I wanted to pop in and say hi, how are you all going (YES, I seriously want to know).
    @MadameLee I'm so sorry your parents are being annoying, I do hope they see some reason soon for your sake! Your sound like such a wonderful headstrong person.

    Small Updates: My dogs operation went well and she's finally back to her bouncy self, still a few more tests to run (and empty my bank account) then everything will be back to whatever one considers normal these days, and hopefully sooner rather than later I can get back to my writing.

    I had a bit of time up my sleeve to create a Fallout Bunker which I've shared to the gallery under that name, have a look if you'd like. You'll find me under IvoryChild as my original name was taken by someone else when the Sims 4 came out.
    I had fun building it :D
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  • MadameLeeMadameLee Posts: 31,518 Member
    Hey guys,
    I'm not technically back ye, but I wanted to pop in and say hi, how are you all going (YES, I seriously want to know).
    @MadameLee I'm so sorry your parents are being annoying, I do hope they see some reason soon for your sake! Your sound like such a wonderful headstrong person.

    Small Updates: My dogs operation went well and she's finally back to her bouncy self, still a few more tests to run (and empty my bank account) then everything will be back to whatever one considers normal these days, and hopefully sooner rather than later I can get back to my writing.

    I had a bit of time up my sleeve to create a Fallout Bunker which I've shared to the gallery under that name, have a look if you'd like. You'll find me under IvoryChild as my original name was taken by someone else when the Sims 4 came out.
    I had fun building it :D

    @IvoryButterfly Glad you're dog is better I lost Cider back in August. I'm just having to decide what to do about lunch tomorrow (I'm doing the Crisis bed tour tomorrow at 11). But since I'm going to be eatting out on Friday (it's that week again) Mom thinks I should "just come home for lunch". But I don't really want to and I know there's a BK (Burger King nearby Tim's) and it been awhile since I had BK food.
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  • IvoryButterflyIvoryButterfly Posts: 1,183 Member
    MadameLee wrote: »
    @IvoryButterfly Glad you're dog is better I lost Cider back in August. I'm just having to decide what to do about lunch tomorrow (I'm doing the Crisis bed tour tomorrow at 11). But since I'm going to be eatting out on Friday (it's that week again) Mom thinks I should "just come home for lunch". But I don't really want to and I know there's a BK (Burger King nearby Tim's) and it been awhile since I had BK food.

    Thank you, and I'm so sorry, I think I recall you saying something about it but I never go to give my condolences *HUGS*.
    And, go out for lunch, why not, have a nice time.
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  • MadameLeeMadameLee Posts: 31,518 Member
    edited November 2019
    Had a huge argument with my Mom today after coming home from the tour about me wanting to do the laundry even if it was my own and about me wanting to have the experience the rest of my friends and relatives have but still have a supportive environment (because of an incident when I was 10)? And yet all my parents can say is "A lot of YAs still live at home" yeah but they might have lived in a dorm room if they want to college or something or they're moved in their "other" or something. My parents think I will die before them because I'm not really incentive to exercise but can you blame me for not wanting to exercise because exercise to me =gym bullying experiences/or way too long a walk to a gym and back.
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  • ninaumininaumi Posts: 360 Member
    Sourocha wrote: »
    ninaumi wrote: »
    Hi everyone! It’s been a long time since I’ve written anything and even gamed. However, I’m slowly getting past my internal resistance which has made me paralyzed in terms of ability to even attempt creating anything except my “productivity systems” (journals/apps/to-do lists, etc) and ideas that were always impossible for me to act upon, or were unrealistic. I have been, more or less, in a state of apathy and executive dysfunction for a long time.

    I can say that I am proud of my tiny first 3 “chapters” of The Meadows story. It seems like I’ve finally “caught my genius” as the writer Elizabeth Gilbert calls it. (you can search for her TED talk on it) It’s more like that than it is that I feel like a genius or more precisely, like a writer/artist/etc. I don’t regard myself as a highly artistic person, but when I recall “my genius” as something almost palpable, a spark within me that started that story, I think I won’t ever be able to “catch it” again. It was a sudden hit, and then it vanished. I wrote the 3rd part with much struggle, and after that, I’ve finally succumbed to lethargy. It’s not that I mind it so much anymore, but I want to continue with it, and I’ve also wanted to write here on this issue many times but couldn’t make myself do it.

    Nowadays, I have a perfect excuse to write about it every single day, at least for a little. I’m learning copywriting because I want to work in that field. It comprises primarily artistic people, and it is common sense for people to cultivate their creativity on the side, for themselves, too. I want to commit to writing SimLit every day when I wake up. I love doing it, and it would be beneficial to me in so many ways. But things like a writer’s block and clumsy writing techniques, which show my lack of artistry, bug me. I’m still somewhat hopeful though, given that I’m still planning to do it. I believe creative writing has the most potential for me to grow personally by, but it’s so plum hard. Is there anyone who writes (almost) every day and has it as a ritual? I would love to hear their thoughts on this, but also anyone else’s. Thanks in advance!

    @ninaumi Sorry for the non-productive times! :( It must be hard to be in the state you're in, and still keep on writing and creating, but don't give up! :triumph: Keep on writing if it makes you happy!

    On the subject of writing everyday, I try to write everyday. (10 minutes on busy days and 20-30 minutes on more calm days that's why my story takes so long to update shs) And when I set up that I'm going to write for 10 minutes, I'm going to do just that, even if I don't feel like it, just kinda ''forcing'' myself to use those minutes to write, even when I'm not in a ''creative'' mood, which in my opinion, relates to that frase about 10% inspiration and 90% pespiration. Writing in my opinion is kinda like that, not everyday the ''muse'' comes in whispers in your ear what to say, sometimes you gotta sit in front of a blank screen and make you really think, for a couple of minutes, what to write next.

    As Always, please take my advice with a grain of salt. I say ''forced'' but I still enjoy every moment I'm writing, that's why I still do to this day! Just because I make it as to some kind of shore, it doesn't mean I don't like it. I think they key word is ''didicpline''However, that's me. If you try forcing yourself and while using this minutes to Wright you don't feel good, or burned out, then there's no need to keep on doing it.

    I know, it's confusing. :p I hope you get it either way! :D Also, if you want Wright everyday, I suggest starting small. :) Try starting with like 10 minutes, and then gradually making it more time as you get confortable and used to this writing schedulle. Again, my opinion, and my personal idea! ;)

    @Sourocha Thank you so much for replying! :) I'm preparing right now to "sit and write". I already have some screenshots with planned stuff I want to write about.
  • friendsfan367friendsfan367 Posts: 26,651 Member
    ninaumi wrote: »
    Sourocha wrote: »
    ninaumi wrote: »
    Hi everyone! It’s been a long time since I’ve written anything and even gamed. However, I’m slowly getting past my internal resistance which has made me paralyzed in terms of ability to even attempt creating anything except my “productivity systems” (journals/apps/to-do lists, etc) and ideas that were always impossible for me to act upon, or were unrealistic. I have been, more or less, in a state of apathy and executive dysfunction for a long time.

    I can say that I am proud of my tiny first 3 “chapters” of The Meadows story. It seems like I’ve finally “caught my genius” as the writer Elizabeth Gilbert calls it. (you can search for her TED talk on it) It’s more like that than it is that I feel like a genius or more precisely, like a writer/artist/etc. I don’t regard myself as a highly artistic person, but when I recall “my genius” as something almost palpable, a spark within me that started that story, I think I won’t ever be able to “catch it” again. It was a sudden hit, and then it vanished. I wrote the 3rd part with much struggle, and after that, I’ve finally succumbed to lethargy. It’s not that I mind it so much anymore, but I want to continue with it, and I’ve also wanted to write here on this issue many times but couldn’t make myself do it.

    Nowadays, I have a perfect excuse to write about it every single day, at least for a little. I’m learning copywriting because I want to work in that field. It comprises primarily artistic people, and it is common sense for people to cultivate their creativity on the side, for themselves, too. I want to commit to writing SimLit every day when I wake up. I love doing it, and it would be beneficial to me in so many ways. But things like a writer’s block and clumsy writing techniques, which show my lack of artistry, bug me. I’m still somewhat hopeful though, given that I’m still planning to do it. I believe creative writing has the most potential for me to grow personally by, but it’s so plum hard. Is there anyone who writes (almost) every day and has it as a ritual? I would love to hear their thoughts on this, but also anyone else’s. Thanks in advance!

    @ninaumi Sorry for the non-productive times! :( It must be hard to be in the state you're in, and still keep on writing and creating, but don't give up! :triumph: Keep on writing if it makes you happy!

    On the subject of writing everyday, I try to write everyday. (10 minutes on busy days and 20-30 minutes on more calm days that's why my story takes so long to update shs) And when I set up that I'm going to write for 10 minutes, I'm going to do just that, even if I don't feel like it, just kinda ''forcing'' myself to use those minutes to write, even when I'm not in a ''creative'' mood, which in my opinion, relates to that frase about 10% inspiration and 90% pespiration. Writing in my opinion is kinda like that, not everyday the ''muse'' comes in whispers in your ear what to say, sometimes you gotta sit in front of a blank screen and make you really think, for a couple of minutes, what to write next.

    As Always, please take my advice with a grain of salt. I say ''forced'' but I still enjoy every moment I'm writing, that's why I still do to this day! Just because I make it as to some kind of shore, it doesn't mean I don't like it. I think they key word is ''didicpline''However, that's me. If you try forcing yourself and while using this minutes to Wright you don't feel good, or burned out, then there's no need to keep on doing it.

    I know, it's confusing. :p I hope you get it either way! :D Also, if you want Wright everyday, I suggest starting small. :) Try starting with like 10 minutes, and then gradually making it more time as you get confortable and used to this writing schedulle. Again, my opinion, and my personal idea! ;)

    @Sourocha Thank you so much for replying! :) I'm preparing right now to "sit and write". I already have some screenshots with planned stuff I want to write about.

    oh thats what i forgot to do . write. i'm scared to go in game though. noel and lauren finally quit hitting each other.
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