I'm not sure if this is a bug or not,
or if maybe it has to do with some mod I'm using. I wondered if this happened to anyone else.
ALL of my sim parents have a favorite child. If they have more than one child, they'll favor one of them to an obsessive degree. It seems random which child it is, not having to do with how high the relationship is or who was born first. But their social whims will revolve between their spouse and that one child (or occasionally some hated sim who happened to walk by), over and over again. Never for any of their other children. Even after switching households, and even after closing and reloading the game. It makes me really sad for the other neglected kids, lol!
It seems uniform across my worlds, too. I have dozens of households between all of my worlds, and lots of families. I can’t seem to find any parent anywhere who rolled whims for each of their children equally. I'm hard pressed to find a parent who rolled whims for more than one child at all ever. It's always just their favorite.
The only time I can get the parent to roll a whim for a different child is if they travel to some other neighborhood with one of the other kids where the favored child is not there at all.
Does this happen to anyone else?
ETA: I just tested without mods or CC and all sim parents still had their same favorite child.
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My sims may want to socialize with one child over another, but I don't allow it, I like my parents to have a high relationship with all their kids. So I direct them to talk to all of them. They do a lot of that while eating, tell a joke to one, ask about school to another. etc.
Well, yes, of course you can choose to ignore them and play your sims however you think they should be. But the way I like to play, I imagine that the whims represent what my sims are thinking and let that guide my gameplay for them. Otherwise, why have the whims at all? It might be an interesting character detail that one parent happened to have a favorite child, but this is happening to ALL of my parents in every family. When the whims are uniformly broken like this, it kind of spoils the way I like to play.
But I just wondered if this was a bug in only my game or if it happened to everyone?
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I don't know if it's happening in my other families as I've only been playing my legacy family lately.
The OP doesn't mean you having a favourite, but your Sims as indicated by their whims.
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To be fair though, each of the girls seemed to have a favored parent that they rolled whims for too, lol!
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In real life we often see the 'Daddy's Little Girl' and the 'Momma's Boy' dynamic in families with two children. I raised five kids on my own and can say this dynamic held true until my kids hit eighteen and that reversed itself. My girls became closer to me and the boys relied more on their father.
This thread has brought up some very good points and deserves more discussion. I am going to play around with the family dynamic and see if there is a connection between traits and favoritism. Is this something that pops up when that Sim child becomes an adult and he/she feels they were not treated equally by a parent? Has anyone noticed that in your game? Legacy players would know more about this then I do. Does the favoritism carry forward once all the children are grown and out on their own?
Thank you, OP, for bringing this up for discussion.
I do have one save with a challenge and I think I've noticed that the single mother always favours the oldest child. Interestingly, this child will vary over time, because I move the children out as they grow older. So maybe she just prefers interacting with teens?
I am actually intrigued by this, as I think it mirrors real life. Some parent/child relationships are just easier, come natural, share the same interests or whatever ... some are harder, some are gender or cultural issues ....
I could see great story telling/inspirational ideas that could come from it. How say, mom and dad favored the son, gave him everything he ever wanted, catered to his every whim, doted on him right and left while their daughter could do nothing right and was largely ignored and how she ended up being self-reliant, strong and successful while her brother ended up being alone, overweight and single playing on a computer in his basement bedroom as he mooched off mom and dad till they died.
This happens because TS4 sims don't roll whims for any sim who isn't loaded on the lot. It's kind of like when I sent my parent and unfavored child to another neighborhood where the favorite child wasn't loaded, then the parent began rolling whims for other children. But only because the favorite child wasn't there. As soon as the favorite child was invited to the lot, the whims revolved around her again.
I'm curious to know, now that your favored child has grown up and moved out, if you invited them back over, would the parent start rolling whims for only them again?
I don't age my sims fast enough to test what happens when they grow up.
My sim parents will get wishes to socialize with each other and 1 child in the family.
Usually, I find, its like every member of the family is obsessed with that same family member. All the siblings also constantly wish to hang with that 1 sim also.
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Yes, this is another thing that I'm not sure if it's related or not. Even in households where nobody is related or even knows each other (like an apartment-style lot of 8 singles) sometimes they'll all focus on one particular sim to a maddening degree! For no apparent reason at all—I mean, not similar traits, not higher relationships or anything like that. But I have seen this happen in families, too, with parents and siblings.