when it comes to schedule stuff..I'm very nitpicky. When sis isn't visting.. we put the first load in at 12:30, the next load at 1:30, the load after that at 2:30, until like by 4:30 all the loads are done. So i like sticking to schedule..and we can't stick to laundry schedule if Mom's rather been listening to my sister complaing about her roommates (she's sleeping on the couch in their apartment). Like how she can't go to bed until after the roommates come home at midnight, or how the friend's son buggs her for a hour in the morning when she's trying to leave.
So if stuff doesn't go in at a certain time I'm likely to explode..
I get it, you like sticking to a schedule, but sometimes life throws wrenches into schedules and this is one of those times.
And maybe your sister needs to vent that frustration out to avoid blowing up at her room mates and ending up kicked out. Because if she's sleeping on the couch, she's not on the lease for that apartment and is there at the whims of her room mates. Or maybe she's there to get advice from your mom on how to handle the situation and you've only heard the part where she's discussed the problems she's been having.
when it comes to schedule stuff..I'm very nitpicky. When sis isn't visting.. we put the first load in at 12:30, the next load at 1:30, the load after that at 2:30, until like by 4:30 all the loads are done. So i like sticking to schedule..and we can't stick to laundry schedule if Mom's rather been listening to my sister complaing about her roommates (she's sleeping on the couch in their apartment). Like how she can't go to bed until after the roommates come home at midnight, or how the friend's son buggs her for a hour in the morning when she's trying to leave.
So if stuff doesn't go in at a certain time I'm likely to explode..
I get it, you like sticking to a schedule, but sometimes life throws wrenches into schedules and this is one of those times.
And maybe your sister needs to vent that frustration out to avoid blowing up at her room mates and ending up kicked out. Because if she's sleeping on the couch, she's not on the lease for that apartment and is there at the whims of her room mates. Or maybe she's there to get advice from your mom on how to handle the situation and you've only heard the part where she's discussed the problems she's been having.
That leads to the entire issue of how I want to live on my own..but apartments are way too expensive,etc (I even had a dream last night which was a cross between Camp Half-blood from the Percy Jackson series and a residential program last night). I never took a subway by myself (but have taken a bus).. I'm getting tired of living with my parents. I mean what kind of roommates can be worse than your parents? I have to vent about my parents at (Day-program) because I have no other way to vent.. journaling only helps so much. Mom thinks that the next time we are in Toronto (w/o grandpa) Mom can ask me "Where do we go now?" but that's not the same thing as taking the subway (or streetcar) entirely on my own
when it comes to schedule stuff..I'm very nitpicky. When sis isn't visting.. we put the first load in at 12:30, the next load at 1:30, the load after that at 2:30, until like by 4:30 all the loads are done. So i like sticking to schedule..and we can't stick to laundry schedule if Mom's rather been listening to my sister complaing about her roommates (she's sleeping on the couch in their apartment). Like how she can't go to bed until after the roommates come home at midnight, or how the friend's son buggs her for a hour in the morning when she's trying to leave.
So if stuff doesn't go in at a certain time I'm likely to explode..
I get it, you like sticking to a schedule, but sometimes life throws wrenches into schedules and this is one of those times.
And maybe your sister needs to vent that frustration out to avoid blowing up at her room mates and ending up kicked out. Because if she's sleeping on the couch, she's not on the lease for that apartment and is there at the whims of her room mates. Or maybe she's there to get advice from your mom on how to handle the situation and you've only heard the part where she's discussed the problems she's been having.
That leads to the entire issue of how I want to live on my own..but apartments are way too expensive,etc (I even had a dream last night which was a cross between Camp Half-blood from the Percy Jackson series and a residential program last night). I never took a subway by myself (but have taken a bus).. I'm getting tired of living with my parents. I mean what kind of roommates can be worse than your parents? I have to vent about my parents at (Day-program) because I have no other way to vent.. journaling only helps so much. Mom thinks that the next time we are in Toronto (w/o grandpa) Mom can ask me "Where do we go now?" but that's not the same thing as taking the subway (or streetcar) entirely on my own
All kinds of roommates can be worse than your parents.
Roommates can lie and steal and be messy and leave messes everywhere or not keep up with their share of the rent.
I would bet that there's a site out there where people vent about bad roommates. I would honestly go read that and realize that you actually don't have it that bad.
@Serra1024.. Dad already leaves messes every like I'm his personal maid..it seems. I already heard past roomate stories only over hearing on my part about "past" roomates of my sister's. She buys x and Y person eats X and not replace it. Or the roomate(S) treats sis as a chauffeur for their children
Your sister is getting walked over, it seems. People are taking advantage of her kind nature, so yes it's normal for her to vent. As Serra said, if she's sleeping on the couch she's not leased there and is only there as a kind gesture cos she has nowhere else to go. If your sister were to voice her frustrations to the friend, they could throw her out. So she has come to her mother for help, guidance and to vent. That's part what being a mother entails (my sister often calls my mum to ask her for advice and to vent her problems at her).
"What kind of roommates can be worse than your parents?"? Well, they could have someone who has no idea how lucky they are that they have parents who love them. They could have someone who clearly wants to be independent, but also wants people to do everything for them.
@MadameLee, i'm sorry your sister is having problems with her room-mates.
also, while she is there visiting, you all can do the laundry together, if you want to get it done at a specific time. you can still chat and spend time together.
@MadameLee, i'm sorry your sister is having problems with her room-mates.
also, while she is there visiting, you all can do the laundry together, if you want to get it done at a specific time. you can still chat and spend time together.
@fewlines I'm not being rude ..but sis doesn't want to do the laundry ever because she did it most of the early-mid summer of 2007
@KoumoriDiru That's just it I want to be independent myself but moving out isn't an option and not unless I want to live in a residential program and yet I don't want to start from the highest level-I'm more like mid level support? Since I can cook and I can do laundry-if I'm allowed too and if I have instructions). And all the supports I COULD have (besides just New Leaf) are only available in Toronto there's a program called LIGHTS which help people with disabilities like mine find their own places to live outside of their parents. But they apparently don't operate outside of Toronto.
@Sassycotton the residential program isn't quite a group home but I don't know of any people who actually experienced it.
@Sassycotton we are 7 1/2 years apart. The entire reason why I want to be independent is so that I don't have to rely on her/her family if she ever has one or our cousins/cousins' families when we're around grandpa's age (that's one of the major reasons why I really, really, really want to date). I try to have a good relationship like I kind of miss her quesadillas she sometimes made for our suppers. But sometimes its hard too when she doesn't live in the house anymore. She doesn't quite understand (never has) that I'm special needs. If you want more info PM me..
You are very right. Thinking that I might have been near to losing life before Christmas makes me appreciate it much more now.
The fright did have one good effect though. I've cleared out a lot of stuff, not wanting my family to find me so untidy!
Love and "Hugs" to all those needing support and grieving at the moment. I lost both my parents before I was 20 and didn't give myself time to grieve properly so do let yourselves break down if you need to sometimes. I found The Samaritans very willing to listen to me (on the telephone) when I needed it later.
You are very right. Thinking that I might have been near to losing life before Christmas makes me appreciate it much more now.
The fright did have one good effect though. I've cleared out a lot of stuff, not wanting my family to find me so untidy!
Love and "Hugs" to all those needing support and grieving at the moment. I lost both my parents before I was 20 and didn't give myself time to grieve properly so do let yourselves break down if you need to sometimes. I found The Samaritans very willing to listen to me (on the telephone) when I needed it later.
Hello @Simburian
Sending a hug to you
It was beneficial that your health issues has caused you to do some cleaning out of things in your home
I am sorry to hear of the passing away of your parents before you were twenty You would treasure very much all of your childhood and teen memories of them
Mom keeps bringing up how other people are worse off than I am. Like what will happen when (friend) who is more disabled than I parents are gone? She has a slew of older brothers to help her out. me? I have one sister and several cousins. Or people who are testing a basic income program which doesn't until sometime next year. Like one person hasn't been able to go to restaurants before or have an actually place to live
Mom keeps bringing up how other people are worse off than I am. Like what will happen when (friend) who is more disabled than I parents are gone? She has a slew of older brothers to help her out. me? I have one sister and several cousins. Or people who are testing a basic income program which doesn't until sometime next year. Like one person hasn't been able to go to restaurants before or have an actually place to live
Hello @MadameLee
You are concerned about what will happen if your parents are unable to support you or pass away whilst you are still living. It is weighing on your mind, so it would be best to make plans with your parents now, ahead of time. It would be best to discuss the various alternatives that you may have. It may help to make an appointment with your family doctor and discuss it with them as they may have services that they can refer you to , for preparing for the future now, and to help with your health needs.
Doing this may help to put your mind to rest a little,
Mom keeps bringing up how other people are worse off than I am. Like what will happen when (friend) who is more disabled than I parents are gone? She has a slew of older brothers to help her out. me? I have one sister and several cousins. Or people who are testing a basic income program which doesn't until sometime next year. Like one person hasn't been able to go to restaurants before or have an actually place to live
Hello @MadameLee
You are concerned about what will happen if your parents are unable to support you or pass away whilst you are still living. It is weighing on your mind, so it would be best to make plans with your parents now, ahead of time. It would be best to discuss the various alternatives that you may have. It may help to make an appointment with your family doctor and discuss it with them as they may have services that they can refer you to , for preparing for the future now, and to help with your health needs.
Doing this may help to put your mind to rest a little,
@rosemow but they keep putting it off every time I mention it to them. "It wouldn't happen for awhile" or Mom said today during one of our arguments "How old will you be when that happens 40? 50?" I can't make an appointment because of the fact the family doctor is too far out to travel to on my own (unlike my ear doctor and my specialist doctor). Yeah taking the bus to get to day-program is independent..but that's not enough for me. We don't have any group homes here for YAs like myself. Sure there's DMHS residential program but mom says because I don't have an diagonized mental health issues..they wouldn't allow me into it. Sure there's no where for me to go to if I was to leave tomorrow night (or more like Tuesday afternoon). We don't even have any homeless shelters I know of for non-abused people who just want to get away from their family. The only group homes are for people under 18. And who knows how long it would take me to get into the ProejcthousingDurham
It's just Mom has a nasty habit of bringing up other people who ARE NOT ME everytime we have a conversation and I hate being compared to those people because they had/have their own hopes&dreams. Well I have MINE and I can't get mine by seeming to be under their control all the time
Yeah I understand that. I get worried about that too. Has your Dr ever tested you? I'm going to a specialist to find out what's really mentally wrong with me so we can get it hopefully "fixed". I know how frustrating it can be when a parent either says you have nothing wrong with you when in fact you and other people have told her something is wrong or they tend to tell you that your dreams and hopes are "pipe dreams" I've heard both these things from my own mom and I know how much it can hurt and make you feel like pulling your hair out in frustration and being compared to others just sucks big time!
Yeah I understand that. I get worried about that too. Has your Dr ever tested you? I'm going to a specialist to find out what's really mentally wrong with me so we can get it hopefully "fixed". I know how frustrating it can be when a parent either says you have nothing wrong with you when in fact you and other people have told her something is wrong or they tend to tell you that your dreams and hopes are "pipe dreams" I've heard both these things from my own mom and I know how much it can hurt and make you feel like pulling your hair out in frustration and being compared to others just plum big time!
@Sassycotton this family doctor I just got in October. I had been without one for some years due to the old one had to quit due to the fact the clinic where she worked owner wanted her to put in more hours. My only other doctors are an ear one and my Toronto one. So my doctor(s) never really tested me for anything. Not even the ones at Sick Kids' hospital when I went there (which I did until I was 18). Mom doesn't seem to understand comparing me to Aunt M, or (friend L) isn't going to help much.
Mom keeps bringing up how other people are worse off than I am. Like what will happen when (friend) who is more disabled than I parents are gone? She has a slew of older brothers to help her out. me? I have one sister and several cousins. Or people who are testing a basic income program which doesn't until sometime next year. Like one person hasn't been able to go to restaurants before or have an actually place to live
Hello @MadameLee
You are concerned about what will happen if your parents are unable to support you or pass away whilst you are still living. It is weighing on your mind, so it would be best to make plans with your parents now, ahead of time. It would be best to discuss the various alternatives that you may have. It may help to make an appointment with your family doctor and discuss it with them as they may have services that they can refer you to , for preparing for the future now, and to help with your health needs.
Doing this may help to put your mind to rest a little,
@rosemow but they keep putting it off every time I mention it to them. "It wouldn't happen for awhile" or Mom said today during one of our arguments "How old will you be when that happens 40? 50?" I can't make an appointment because of the fact the family doctor is too far out to travel to on my own (unlike my ear doctor and my specialist doctor). Yeah taking the bus to get to day-program is independent..but that's not enough for me. We don't have any group homes here for YAs like myself. Sure there's DMHS residential program but mom says because I don't have an diagonized mental health issues..they wouldn't allow me into it. Sure there's no where for me to go to if I was to leave tomorrow night (or more like Tuesday afternoon). We don't even have any homeless shelters I know of for non-abused people who just want to get away from their family. The only group homes are for people under 18. And who knows how long it would take me to get into the ProejcthousingDurham
It's just Mom has a nasty habit of bringing up other people who ARE NOT ME everytime we have a conversation and I hate being compared to those people because they had/have their own hopes&dreams. Well I have MINE and I can't get mine by seeming to be under their control all the time
I am disabled as well. I have been since birth, and my parents have been making plans for YEARS so that I will be okay when they are no longer living. I’m almost 32, and my parents are almost 70 and 69. We have a plan in place for me. It is VERY IMPORTANT that you and your parents have a plan in place, no matter how far off it is when that time comes. Because you just never know what will happen, or when. They need to make sure you know how to live independently NOW. My mom still won’t let me do a lot of things (mostly because she prefers to do them herself, rather than show Dad or I how to do it), but I can cook, do laundry, clean house, and manage my finances. My older sister (she’s almost 44) lives next door with her husband, and my niece is a few miles away. I will have help from them when the time comes, but I will be living here on my own. My parents made everything evident in their will.
Yeah I understand that. I get worried about that too. Has your Dr ever tested you? I'm going to a specialist to find out what's really mentally wrong with me so we can get it hopefully "fixed". I know how frustrating it can be when a parent either says you have nothing wrong with you when in fact you and other people have told her something is wrong or they tend to tell you that your dreams and hopes are "pipe dreams" I've heard both these things from my own mom and I know how much it can hurt and make you feel like pulling your hair out in frustration and being compared to others just plum big time!
Hello @Sassycotton
I send hugs to you
It will be good for you to talk over with the Specialst how you are feeling. It will be very beneficial for both your mental and physical health. They both interact with each other, affecting each other. It is an opportunity to talk with someone who has a listening ear, and will offer you support and help in all that your day by day holds. Mental health issues aren’t something that can be ‘fixed’ but there are many avenues to live your life to the best possible way as you gain helpful support and advice to live through it and it’s effects that it may have on your life.
Mom keeps bringing up how other people are worse off than I am. Like what will happen when (friend) who is more disabled than I parents are gone? She has a slew of older brothers to help her out. me? I have one sister and several cousins. Or people who are testing a basic income program which doesn't until sometime next year. Like one person hasn't been able to go to restaurants before or have an actually place to live
Hello @MadameLee
You are concerned about what will happen if your parents are unable to support you or pass away whilst you are still living. It is weighing on your mind, so it would be best to make plans with your parents now, ahead of time. It would be best to discuss the various alternatives that you may have. It may help to make an appointment with your family doctor and discuss it with them as they may have services that they can refer you to , for preparing for the future now, and to help with your health needs.
Doing this may help to put your mind to rest a little,
@rosemow but they keep putting it off every time I mention it to them. "It wouldn't happen for awhile" or Mom said today during one of our arguments "How old will you be when that happens 40? 50?" I can't make an appointment because of the fact the family doctor is too far out to travel to on my own (unlike my ear doctor and my specialist doctor). Yeah taking the bus to get to day-program is independent..but that's not enough for me. We don't have any group homes here for YAs like myself. Sure there's DMHS residential program but mom says because I don't have an diagonized mental health issues..they wouldn't allow me into it. Sure there's no where for me to go to if I was to leave tomorrow night (or more like Tuesday afternoon). We don't even have any homeless shelters I know of for non-abused people who just want to get away from their family. The only group homes are for people under 18. And who knows how long it would take me to get into the ProejcthousingDurham
It's just Mom has a nasty habit of bringing up other people who ARE NOT ME everytime we have a conversation and I hate being compared to those people because they had/have their own hopes&dreams. Well I have MINE and I can't get mine by seeming to be under their control all the time
I am disabled as well. I have been since birth, and my parents have been making plans for YEARS so that I will be okay when they are no longer living. I’m almost 32, and my parents are almost 70 and 69. We have a plan in place for me. It is VERY IMPORTANT that you and your parents have a plan in place, no matter how far off it is when that time comes. Because you just never know what will happen, or when. They need to make sure you know how to live independently NOW. My mom still won’t let me do a lot of things (mostly because she prefers to do them herself, rather than show Dad or I how to do it), but I can cook, do laundry, clean house, and manage my finances. My older sister (she’s almost 44) lives next door with her husband, and my niece is a few miles away. I will have help from them when the time comes, but I will be living here on my own. My parents made everything evident in their will.
@Evenstar606 Yet my Mom refuses to make a plan..now she rather put it off as long as she can. Even though Dad said the other year 2012-2013 that they should try to arrange something for me for when they're gone. But yet at the same time she thinks she might end up at Whitby Shores health centre because of how much I am a brat and thinks the world revolves around me. Her words not mine. yet she refuses to realises that part of the problem is the fact she and Dad gave into me when they tried to show me when I was a child how to do stuff. Like how I act today is why Mom doesn't normally ask me to do the laundry because "Mount Vesuvius could explode" or when she's able to make supper, Mom doesn't normally ask me for the same reason "Mount Vesuvius could explode"
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I get it, you like sticking to a schedule, but sometimes life throws wrenches into schedules and this is one of those times.
And maybe your sister needs to vent that frustration out to avoid blowing up at her room mates and ending up kicked out. Because if she's sleeping on the couch, she's not on the lease for that apartment and is there at the whims of her room mates. Or maybe she's there to get advice from your mom on how to handle the situation and you've only heard the part where she's discussed the problems she's been having.
That leads to the entire issue of how I want to live on my own..but apartments are way too expensive,etc (I even had a dream last night which was a cross between Camp Half-blood from the Percy Jackson series and a residential program last night). I never took a subway by myself (but have taken a bus).. I'm getting tired of living with my parents. I mean what kind of roommates can be worse than your parents? I have to vent about my parents at (Day-program) because I have no other way to vent.. journaling only helps so much. Mom thinks that the next time we are in Toronto (w/o grandpa) Mom can ask me "Where do we go now?" but that's not the same thing as taking the subway (or streetcar) entirely on my own
sorry @rosemow
All kinds of roommates can be worse than your parents.
Roommates can lie and steal and be messy and leave messes everywhere or not keep up with their share of the rent.
I would bet that there's a site out there where people vent about bad roommates. I would honestly go read that and realize that you actually don't have it that bad.
"What kind of roommates can be worse than your parents?"? Well, they could have someone who has no idea how lucky they are that they have parents who love them. They could have someone who clearly wants to be independent, but also wants people to do everything for them.
also, while she is there visiting, you all can do the laundry together, if you want to get it done at a specific time. you can still chat and spend time together.
@fewlines I'm not being rude ..but sis doesn't want to do the laundry ever because she did it most of the early-mid summer of 2007
@KoumoriDiru That's just it I want to be independent myself but moving out isn't an option and not unless I want to live in a residential program and yet I don't want to start from the highest level-I'm more like mid level support? Since I can cook and I can do laundry-if I'm allowed too and if I have instructions). And all the supports I COULD have (besides just New Leaf) are only available in Toronto there's a program called LIGHTS which help people with disabilities like mine find their own places to live outside of their parents. But they apparently don't operate outside of Toronto.
@Sassycotton the residential program isn't quite a group home but I don't know of any people who actually experienced it.
Life is very precious
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You are very right. Thinking that I might have been near to losing life before Christmas makes me appreciate it much more now.
The fright did have one good effect though. I've cleared out a lot of stuff, not wanting my family to find me so untidy!
Love and "Hugs" to all those needing support and grieving at the moment. I lost both my parents before I was 20 and didn't give myself time to grieve properly so do let yourselves break down if you need to sometimes. I found The Samaritans very willing to listen to me (on the telephone) when I needed it later.
Hello @Simburian
Sending a hug to you
It was beneficial that your health issues has caused you to do some cleaning out of things in your home
I am sorry to hear of the passing away of your parents before you were twenty
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Hello @MadameLee
You are concerned about what will happen if your parents are unable to support you or pass away whilst you are still living. It is weighing on your mind, so it would be best to make plans with your parents now, ahead of time. It would be best to discuss the various alternatives that you may have. It may help to make an appointment with your family doctor and discuss it with them as they may have services that they can refer you to , for preparing for the future now, and to help with your health needs.
Doing this may help to put your mind to rest a little,
http://forums.thesims.com/en_US/discussion/817478/hello-come-and-introduce-yourself
http://tinyurl.com/OneRoomOneWeek
http://tinyurl.com/rosemow
My Showcase thread https://forums.thesims.com/en_US/discussion/948861/rosemow-s-rooms-showcase
@rosemow but they keep putting it off every time I mention it to them. "It wouldn't happen for awhile" or Mom said today during one of our arguments "How old will you be when that happens 40? 50?" I can't make an appointment because of the fact the family doctor is too far out to travel to on my own (unlike my ear doctor and my specialist doctor). Yeah taking the bus to get to day-program is independent..but that's not enough for me. We don't have any group homes here for YAs like myself. Sure there's DMHS residential program but mom says because I don't have an diagonized mental health issues..they wouldn't allow me into it. Sure there's no where for me to go to if I was to leave tomorrow night (or more like Tuesday afternoon). We don't even have any homeless shelters I know of for non-abused people who just want to get away from their family. The only group homes are for people under 18. And who knows how long it would take me to get into the ProejcthousingDurham
It's just Mom has a nasty habit of bringing up other people who ARE NOT ME everytime we have a conversation and I hate being compared to those people because they had/have their own hopes&dreams. Well I have MINE and I can't get mine by seeming to be under their control all the time
@Sassycotton this family doctor I just got in October. I had been without one for some years due to the old one had to quit due to the fact the clinic where she worked owner wanted her to put in more hours. My only other doctors are an ear one and my Toronto one. So my doctor(s) never really tested me for anything. Not even the ones at Sick Kids' hospital when I went there (which I did until I was 18). Mom doesn't seem to understand comparing me to Aunt M, or (friend L) isn't going to help much.
I am disabled as well. I have been since birth, and my parents have been making plans for YEARS so that I will be okay when they are no longer living. I’m almost 32, and my parents are almost 70 and 69. We have a plan in place for me. It is VERY IMPORTANT that you and your parents have a plan in place, no matter how far off it is when that time comes. Because you just never know what will happen, or when. They need to make sure you know how to live independently NOW. My mom still won’t let me do a lot of things (mostly because she prefers to do them herself, rather than show Dad or I how to do it), but I can cook, do laundry, clean house, and manage my finances. My older sister (she’s almost 44) lives next door with her husband, and my niece is a few miles away. I will have help from them when the time comes, but I will be living here on my own. My parents made everything evident in their will.
Hello @Sassycotton
I send hugs to you
It will be good for you to talk over with the Specialst how you are feeling. It will be very beneficial for both your mental and physical health. They both interact with each other, affecting each other. It is an opportunity to talk with someone who has a listening ear, and will offer you support and help in all that your day by day holds. Mental health issues aren’t something that can be ‘fixed’ but there are many avenues to live your life to the best possible way as you gain helpful support and advice to live through it and it’s effects that it may have on your life.
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http://tinyurl.com/rosemow
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@Evenstar606 Yet my Mom refuses to make a plan..now she rather put it off as long as she can. Even though Dad said the other year 2012-2013 that they should try to arrange something for me for when they're gone. But yet at the same time she thinks she might end up at Whitby Shores health centre because of how much I am a brat and thinks the world revolves around me. Her words not mine. yet she refuses to realises that part of the problem is the fact she and Dad gave into me when they tried to show me when I was a child how to do stuff. Like how I act today is why Mom doesn't normally ask me to do the laundry because "Mount Vesuvius could explode" or when she's able to make supper, Mom doesn't normally ask me for the same reason "Mount Vesuvius could explode"