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  • Re: Writers' Lounge - For All Games!

    Pegasus143 wrote: »
    Pegasus143 wrote: »
    Karilan wrote: »
    I'm curious, how many people here start legacies using the same gender they identify as (or as close to as possible), and why?
    I want to start this by saying that I play rotationally, so obviously this might not be the answer they're looking for. No matter what sims I create to put in my game, they all have something in common with me (which could be as simple as liking pizza), but I also try to make sure they're all very different from me and each other and that no one is 100% "good" or "evil". That being said, I'm gender fluid (short definition: I can be a boy, girl, both, or neither depending on the day, and I'm very open to questions if anyone has any), so you could say that trying to have my created sims be very different from each other makes sense, in a way.

    since your open to questions what happens when your neither?


    if we didn't get along so well its the kind of question i would keep to myself.
    Those days are fun. Just kidding.
    - Clothing (and other things we assign genders to) become a complete nightmare, and I usually end up with a t-shirt, jeans, and a sweatshirt
    - I get a lot more annoyed at "feminine-sounding" terms of endearment (like sweetheart and dear-- yes, there are some teachers at my school that use these)
    - If any conversations arise about male or female stuff, prepare for me to go sit awkwardly in the corner and not look at anyone
    - Also, my breasts feel like these foreign objects that have somehow ended up living on top of my chest, and I feel really numb to them, like they aren't a part of me
    - Also, gendering inanimate objects or activities (like books, video games, sports, instruments, school subjects, clothing jewelry, colors) just makes things 1000x more complicated than they need to be

    So, I've just googled 'genderfluid' because I'm not familiar with the term, but it didn't really help - what showed up were illustrations of one person in different clothing - typically feminine, typically masculine and then neutral. But I don't understand what clothing has to do with it, since, as you said we assign genders to clothing and other things, these things themselves don't really have any association with it. Just like colour pink is actually just a neutral colour like any other and it's only 'girly', because we decided it was.

    I apologize if I sound ignorant or rude. The concept is new to me and English is not my mother tongue, so I can be clumsy when it comes to choosing the right words for what I want to say. The term 'gender' doesn't even exist in my language, so please, have patience with my uneducated self. @Pegasus143
  • Re: Writers' Lounge - For All Games!

    Karilan wrote: »

    I'm curious, how many people here start legacies using the same gender they identify as (or as close to as possible), and why?

    Like the rest of you, I prefer writing about female characters and from their perspective, because that's what I'm familiar with. I not only identify as female, but I grew up in a family with no brothers and very few male cousins and even my closest friends during middle school and high school have always been girls. All older males in my family, like my dad and grandfathers, are that sort of old-fashioned men who doesn't talk much and never about their feelings. So I don't find it very surprising that writing from a male POV is hard for me and absolutely out of my comfort zone. Men are pretty much aliens to me in some cases :smiley:

    And while I think we are all human first and our respective genders second, since I started interacting with males more, I had many eye-opening moments when I learned that men simply feel differently about some things, sometimes to such an extent that I can't even understand how they can feel that way (of course, I know that it might not have anything to do with being different genders but just being different people, I'm not trying to stereotype anyone, it's just my experience) - and that's why I wouldn't feel confident writing them.
  • Re: Writers' Lounge - For All Games!

    EiraRose wrote: »
    @CitizenErased14 I hope this doesn't sound strange, but sometimes I feel like your commenters can be borderline mean! In chapter 10 of Harper's story people were so picky about that one picture of Harper giving that girl a what-for! (lol) Honestly I just wanted you to know that you really do a fantastic job and the buildup for Harper had me loving the possibility of a more morally-gray heir. I honestly think your chapters are extremely well done! I usually don't comment much when I'm playing "catchup" and to be honest I got completely absorbed into reading your chapters that I forgot that was even a thing (oopsies)! I laughed, I cried, I was emotionally dragged on this rollercoaster. It's wonderful, lol! That's the best part of these simlit stories for me.

    Anyways, I just thought I'd let you know I'm eagerly awaiting to see what's in store for the darling Harper, and that I'm rooting for her over here, silently at first, but soon very vocally! :smiley:

    I might be guilty of this - I'm sorry! :O And @CathyTea is right about the reasons - I'm just so MAD (sad, shocked) sometimes. :smiley: I read the chapter and the characters are doing something dumb or mean or problematic, usually just when the things were starting to look better - and I just get so mad! I want to scream at the screen, so I go and I write a comment about that. And I must admit, often I am ashamed about how I reacted and I think to myself: "Geeez, now that was harsh!"

    In my defense, I do it with all the stories I enjoy - you should see me watching Game of Thrones, my commentary can be downright vulgar! But I think it should be considered a good thing, because, at least in my case, it means that I am so invested in the story I didn't take the time to think about it.

    As for hating on a morally-gray heir (which I haven't read about yet, so I'm just guessing) - that's because readers have this mentality of good vs. evil that is just so typical in stories. And even though it's a cliché, people still love rooting for a hero just as much as they love hating on a bad guy. Now, we know world is never black and white, but, well, reality can be boring and dissapointing and bland - that's why many of us turn to stories in the first place. And I think most people know that these not-so-perfect decisions and questionable behaviour is there to make things interesting. Sometimes I even laugh when I see a comment saying "What X did? Now that was problematic bla bla bla." and I think to myself "Of course, it was problematic, that's the point, it's called plot." And then I go and, consumed by reader-rage, I comment something similar :smiley:

    Well, this turned out to be quite a monster post! But I hope it helps to shed some light on slightly problematic behaviour of the readers. It's probably different for everyone but this is what usually led me to say something unkind. And for that I am very, very sorry. Please, @CitizenErased14 and everyone else who experienced this, forgive us for being so unforgiving - we don't really mean it like that!
  • Re: Writers' Lounge - For All Games!

    @cshaner I certainly don't want to see reading circles disbanded. I think it's a wonderful idea that helped many people - the atmosphere is encouraging and the discussions helps people grow as authors. I certainly met great writers and great friends in my reading circle and I discovered beautiful stories I would probably not read otherwise.

    I think the positive definitely aspects outweighs the negative ones, but it doesn't mean there aren't any. I noticed one more thing that will probably sound extremely controversial and unpleasant. The creation of reading circles took away the fans that were really devoted and engrossed in the story, because they now prioritize reading stories from their reading circle. For example, I stopped reading many of my favourite works like A2A and the Bloomers (which are now DONE, omg !! :lol: ) when the reading circles were created, simply because I couldn't keep up with so many stories.

    And with reading circles, there's this kind of anxiety that circle members are only reading and commenting because they have to. And I certainly don't want my story to feel like a chore to someone.

    I hope that makes sense. I repeat, I don't want to disband the circles. I'm just pointing out some things I noticed.

    And @CitizenErased14 seriously, nobody pretends to be the cool kids here (besides, if anyone's cool here, it's you :lol: ). I can't possibly imagine anyone who would have a problem with you (or anyone else) participating in a discussion you find interesting. But if it's really that unpleasant for you - maybe you could bring the discussion here?
  • Re: The Art of Sims Storytelling

    Sourocha wrote: »
    No trying to be rude or anything, really, but, I only do as a hobbie, and, our plantet will be exploded just like the universe and everything that humanity has ever created will be destroyed, as so as that, if a thing like the line of evolution of a civilization will shade away like nothing, why would your story be any worse, even when life could not make it? :) Well, that scaled quickly...got a little to deep, sorry... :D

    Here's a general tip that I hope will serve you well in life: if you ever have to preface a statement with "not trying to be x", just don't make that statement.

    Wow, now this sounded kinda rude to me. (Considering this thread is supposed to be a place for writers to discuss their different approaches, outlooks and philosophies.) But maybe I just misunderstood, since my english is not that great. If so, I apologize.

    @Sourocha I don't think you were rude, actually, you have a point. The truth is we don't know everything about the universe yet and it's possible that one day, when we know more, we'll find a way to escape that unevitable destruction (and by that, I mean physical destruction). Until then, we need to learn to live with this feeling of senselessness - and that feeling can be unbearable. But I think we need to remember that we are here. Billion years from now, there's going to be the end, yes. But until then, we are here. And we have this huge amount of time, unimaginable amount of time ahead of us. We can't just sit still. There's so much to explore and to experience and we are somehow blessed with this ability to observe and to create... so we can't just sit still. Or we can, but the outcome is still the same, so why not make the best out of life while we can.

    And living my best - in my case - includes writing and that's why I do it.

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